Hi Y'all,
I have been planning my wedding for a while now, and I have been slowly finding vendors for my day. I have been contacting people, and recently someone got back to me asking why I am contacting them now when I supposedly have contacted them and ghosted them a while back. I was confused by this and asked the vendor about what happened. They told me that I had reached out to them on a website like this one. I was even more confused by this because I had not been using wedding planning websites since December.
It turns out my mother made accounts on wedding planning websites under my name and had been reaching out to various vendors over the course of half a year. She has then been ghosting various vendors for some reason or another. For the past few days, I have ignored this behavior despite asking her to stop because I did not want to be seen as the 'demanding bridezilla'.
Tonight, I am at a loss about what to do about the situation. My mother gave me access to her account to see the various vendors she found. I saw a vendor that had availability for my wedding day that I was interested in, so I set up an appointment. I went out for the day, and came home and checked on if the vendor had responded. It turned out that my mother accused the vendor of ignoring me in a rude manner while impersonating me. Now the vendor is upset with me and I am worried about losing my vendor (many people are completely booked for my date). I feel mortified.
How can I convince my mother to stop this behavior? Am I being reasonable about being upset by this? How should I address this?