Hi Ladies! I have a question about thank you note etiquette and the best way to go about this unique situation. For background: my family is quote formal and I sent out thank you notes right away after our wedding. We had a separate wedding reception 2 months later in my husband's hometown (as we are over 1,000 miles away from where he and I are from). Our actual wedding was very formal with assigned seats and I know exactly who came so I could easily send out thank you notes, plus almost every person gave a gift so that also helped us know for sure the person was there later even though I remember everyone specifically. My in-laws planned most of our reception in my husband's hometown as they knew all the people they wanted to invite. Because it was just a reception, it was open house style in a large venue space and we ended up having many people come (many who I didn't even get to talk to even though we stood in a meet and greet line the ENTIRE time trying to thank everyone), some who didn't RSVP and some who did (while others who RSVP'ed that they were coming did not come). I'm not sure if it's just a cultural thing as my husband is from the Pacific Northwest, but when I sat down to write thank you notes, I realized that less than about 25% of the people who came brought a gift. My question is... do I try and make my husband remember all the people who were there so we can thank them for coming even though they didn't bring anything or make an attempt to talk to us? It seems strange to me to show up to an event like this and not bring a gift as I would never do that, even as a poor college student (the guests were mostly people who make 90k+ a year so not exactly poor, otherwise it would be different). My concern is if I send a thank you note to one person who I remember being there but then didn't send a thank you note to another person who I never saw/didn't know who they were ect. and then they talk about it later and the other one wonders why they didn't get a thank you note... I don't want anyone's feelings to be hurt. My husband says to just write the thank you notes to the people who brought gifts and be done with it. What is the most respectful approach?