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F this pandemic - Thursday edition

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G has to quarantine for 14 days after a direct exposure at school.  If this happens again I seriously might have to quit my job.  I've exhausted all my sick days, vacation, and FMLA.  I cried for a good 20 minutes before I picked the boys up yesterday after I got the message.  Hoping our parents can maybe help a little bit (totally fine exposure wise since G doesn't have symptoms) but they all work too, so idk.  Can this shit be over yet?  

I'm skipping SIL's baby shower this weekend because she's super high risk already even thought there's almost no chance that I'd pass anything I just can't take the chance. 

Trying to hold it together at work this morning.  I'm just fried. 
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    I’m so sorry @casadena that all sucks so much. 

    Can your H take some days with the boys since you’re out of days? 
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    I'm sorry @Casadena.  If you don't WFH it absolutely sucks when these quarantines hit.  Our state implemented "Screen and Stay" last month so kids can still go to regular school but there are a lot of requirements about the exposure itself that must be met for them to qualify.  I'm grateful that at 12/20 our kids will be considered vaccinated.  We won't change our masking habits but at least at that point they can attend school if exposed and then we need to continue to monitor for symptom changes. 

    I am resigning myself to figure out how to deal with Covid just being here.  It's not going to go away and there won't be herd immunity so now it's figuring out what the new normal will be and how big do we want Christmas to be.  I am volunteering at DS' school today and tomorrow and intend to sport a KN95 mask and possibly a cloth on top of it.    
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    charlotte989875 said:
    I’m so sorry @casadena that all sucks so much. 

    Can your H take some days with the boys since you’re out of days? 
    Oh he definitely can and will!  He started a new job in October and just doesn't have many days.  He's home this morning with G while I'm at the office for some meetings.  His job is also harder to do outside of business hours so I usually end up dealing with kiddos during the day when stuff like this happens.
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  • MissKittyDangerMissKittyDanger member
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    @Casadena Oh jeez :( that's rough. Hopefully it all works out well & kiddos are okay. I know this is a weird question, but is there a way for you to wfh? I know with my job it's not easy but it's doable and could be done in a short term.
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    Casadena said:
    charlotte989875 said:
    I’m so sorry @casadena that all sucks so much. 

    Can your H take some days with the boys since you’re out of days? 
    Oh he definitely can and will!  He started a new job in October and just doesn't have many days.  He's home this morning with G while I'm at the office for some meetings.  His job is also harder to do outside of business hours so I usually end up dealing with kiddos during the day when stuff like this happens.
    Oh that’s all so hard. Hoping G stays symptom free! 
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    Had a tough workday yesterday- another team is being super uncollaborative and it’s frustrating. They’re supposed to be working with us but just aren’t and it’s getting to a fever pitch with some people. We’re going to lose (more) good people because they’ve been told we’re moving forward and other teams are being huge roadblocks. 
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    Oh no @casadena!  There's no way you or H can WAH at least here and there?  That sucks ass. 

    Yesterday was a marathon.  DH and I ran our asses off Christmas shopping.  I will say that I'm about 75%+ done.  I'm whittling down my list, yay. 

    It was also the kiddo's 21st yesterday.  We took him to dinner.  DH went to a bar with him afterward. 

    Worky-worky.  SSDD  I'm sleepy.  This weekend isn't going to be any less hectic though.  Ah well.  LOL 

    Prudie coming up. 
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  • MissKittyDangerMissKittyDanger member
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    I'm just really not feeling it these days. I have zero motivation to do anything, and I'm 100% pushing myself to just feel like I'm on top of things. Which to a degree I am on top of things just not as much as I'd like to be.

    It's probably just time of year. I get holiday burn out very easily - it was worse when I worked in the mall.

    Anyways, we have very little left to pick up - which excites me. It's all stuff M has to get anyways, so I suggested he go to the mall during BK's nap on Saturday to get that plus my gift {I suggested mall giftcard cuz I wanna at least get another pair of pants after holidays} I told M that BK needs to nap Saturday so we can do a drive thru light show that night without her falling asleep lmao!

    BIL & SIL expressed interest in taking BK for a bit recently, so we're entertaining Sunday so I can get some specific driving things started. If they're unable to, SFIL & MIL are gonna take her.
    SFIL is going to see BIL today so he's going to ask about Sunday. I think they also wanna take her for a time over holidays tobogganing. Idk if we're going too or if that's just BIL/SIL with BK
    Side note, BK loves SIL because she's a librarian in a school so she always has stories on her phone for BK to look at. It comes in handy when BK gets a little bored.
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    @Casadena Ugh that is so frustrating. I'm sorry. 
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    Casadena said:
    I can for sure work from home and H is at home full time, it's just not all that productive with an active *almost* 2 year old.  

    I just talked to my boss and thank god he's very understanding about all this and pretty much told me "don't move any vacation, don't worry about talking to HR, i'll call you if it's something i really need, otherwise just do what you can".  As frustrating as he and this job are sometimes, it's stuff like that that makes me super thankful.  

    Thanks for listening, i'm definitely venting and stressed, but it could certainly be a lot worse and i know that.  
    That age is SUPER hard.  When the kids were home and actually sick I thrived in naptime.
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    Casadena said:
    I can for sure work from home and H is at home full time, it's just not all that productive with an active *almost* 2 year old.  

    I just talked to my boss and thank god he's very understanding about all this and pretty much told me "don't move any vacation, don't worry about talking to HR, i'll call you if it's something i really need, otherwise just do what you can".  As frustrating as he and this job are sometimes, it's stuff like that that makes me super thankful.  

    Thanks for listening, i'm definitely venting and stressed, but it could certainly be a lot worse and i know that.  
    I feel this. Luckily BK was only home for 4 weeks because daycare felt safe with new measures, but BK didn't turn 2 until end of May and this started in March 2020

    Tbh I was ready to ask to be laid off when pandemic hit if daycare didn't open up again :\ It's not easy.
    I'm pro bribery
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    I had my yearly check up yesterday.  I was somewhat venting to my doctor about the situation at work and she asked why we were so short handed.  I said the entire field I work in is and it's b/c its woman dominated and women are usually the ones bearing the burden you're going through, @Casadena.  I'm so sorry, the entire world is just so frustrating with all of this.

    Part of me feels like I'm being petty and part of me feels like I'm making healthy boundaries and I can't decide which one it is.  I know I've been posting about the attorney and I that are pretty much at each other's throats.  I don't really operate well under pressure like that and I don't enjoy feeling it.  I usually meet with all of my attorneys weekly to go over my cases with them, get guidance, updates, etc.  I do not want to meet with this attorney any more, so I emailed him his case reviews this morning so that I'm still providing the service (which no other paralegal in the office does), but I'm not in a meeting alone with him.  I thoroughly enjoyed typing out, "I'm waiting on you to do X so that I can do Y" on numerous cases.  I actually think this will be good for accountability and protecting myself, b/c I do know that he's been complaining specifically about me to 2 superiors. 

    More upsetting, and really unprofessional, he's been complaining about me to another paralegal, who is an ass kisser and who I dislike immensely anyway.  I typed out, "Perhaps Paralegal can offer you some guidance" and deleted it like 3 times.  I didn't dip that far into petty, but I really, Really, REALLY wanted to.  This is the paralegal who got caught, by me, saying, "I hate seeing her face every time I have to pass her in the hallway.  She's such a bitch, I don't understand why they don't fire her" about me.  So, there's some personal history there that makes this all sit really heavy on me.  It's affecting my work performance.  I've updated my resume and I think I'm going to have to start looking for another job.  I don't want to short change a new employer, since I do have plans to move in 1.5-2 years, but I'm just not sure this place is sustainable for me anymore.

    Okay, I'm going to try and be done with bitching about work.  It doesn't help except to keep me feeding my feelings and it's getting exhausting.

    I'm going to dinner and seeing the original Matrix tomorrow with a friend.  Then Saturday I'm going with another friend to see a mutual friend perform his queer folk music show.
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    Is it really only Thurs?  This has been a long week.  We got about 3.5" of snow Tuesday.  It was super fluffy and most has melted now.  Preparing for up to 9" Friday night into Sat.  I need to run and get some ingredients tonight as I want to make a few Christmas treats this weekend.  

    I'm dealing with the Post Office on an Amazon package that supposedly delivered to our mailbox last Friday.  It wasn't there nor in the package lockers we have with our mailboxes.  Amazon says I need to deal with the PO first.  I submitted a "ticket" with PO on Monday and someone is supposed to contact me - crickets.  Yesterday, we had a key in our box and DH picked up two packages - addressed to our neighbor.  He brought them inside and I was going to walk them over after dinner as neighbor works 11-7 PM.  About 5 PM a mailperson and neighbor are at our door asking about the packages.  So I didn't have to walk them next door.  I told mail carrier about my missing package and she offered to track it for me.  We'll see if it ever shows up.  It's coffee pods and a cake pan so no gifts.  98% of the time package delivery goes smoothly - it's that 2% that's a pain.
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    banana468 said:
    @VarunaTT IMO 1.5-2 years shouldn't weigh on your guilt. 
    I know it shouldn't.  I just know how long it takes to really merge into a new office and procedures/personalities. 

    I also remind myself that employers are not loyal at all and feel no guilt about doing what's best for them (as evidenced by the behavior here), so I shouldn't either, even if it was for only 6 months.
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  • ILoveBeachMusicILoveBeachMusic member
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    Yes this pandemic sucks and so do all those that refuse to be vaccinated and who refused to follow mandates! We were to go to DD's today but their babysitter tested positive with an at home test. Obviously we didn't go. She is having a PCR test today and should get the results by midnight. She is vaccinated with booster. She also has mild symptoms. The boys don't have any symptoms so hopefully her PCR test will come back negative. If it does, we will head up tomorrow. I just finished icing the gingerbread cookies I made the other day. I was saving them to take with us so the boys could help decorate them. Even if we go up tomorrow, it will be rushed to get them done along with other things we had planned. @Casadena I hope everything works out with your little guy!
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    @CharmedPam oh yikes :\ It's definitely hard even as adults to go back for another shot when you have bad experience
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    All I can say is there's got to be a better way!  The technology now exists after the past year and a half worth of "School at home" - let the kids on quarantine Zoom in to the classroom for the instruction instead of wondering why kids aren't all caught up after weeks of not being in-person on quarantine, then dealing with school wanting daily homework when they did go back the next day as-if they'd never been gone and still learning the previous month's worth of knowledge.  That part was harder than dealing with all the other stuff...  
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