Tuesday

VarunaTT · March 2022

I wasn't at work yesterday b/c of a massive sinus headache. It's still here, but controllable with some meds now, at least. Stupid freaking weather, pick a darn lane!!

Didn't do much over the weekend. I seem to be sleeping an awful lot. I'm not quite concerned with it just yet, but when I'm awake, I have energy and I'm not depressed generally (have had a few down days, but there are reasons), so I'm not quite sure what's going on. I think I just need to get moving more, but again, the darn weather makes me want to go outside for a day and then the next day it's snowing and cold again.

I'm enjoying the sh!t show at work. They've finally given Bullying Coworker her way and it's a disaster and I'm just sitting back in my office, doing my job, and thinking, "I was right, but Imma just sit here and drink my coffee".

MissKittyDanger · March 2022

BK was suppose to go to IL's while I went to dealership, but MIL has a cold so we took her with us. Not easy but luckily M wasn't really needed - he did have questions, so that's why he came.

Anyways I secured a vehicle that probably won't come for a maybe a month or 2

BK said she had to pee and we forgot to bring potty, so we went to the Cabela's nearby.
They have fake animals, so she was fascinated lol
Katie on Instagram: “Pet a moose at Cabelas”

BK has been asking about fishing rods, so we also checked sizes. The 4+ one is still a bit big, but M figures should be fine since he'll be right there.

Got a bunch of cleaning done and boxes removed. M finished zoo, but he has to sand a few small spots - he's not thrilled with it but I said once it's nice out, I wanna paint it so it'll be ok.

levioosa · March 2022

I am so mad for my bff. One of her cousins is having a baby. She was invited a few months ago to the shower. She also offered to throw a digital shower for people who couldn’t make it/who don’t want to travel because of Covid. She just got an un-invitation in the mail saying they wish they could have everyone, but because of “Covid” they can’t. Except her sister got a different invitation with a real in person shower. They’re still expecting her to throw the digital shower. And the un-invite still had the nerve to ask for gifts, oh, and don’t send a card, they don’t want those, they want an actual book. I literally cannot. How hurtful, tacky, and rude.

CharmedPam · March 2022

She B-listed her own cousin @levioosa?!! Did she not think it wouldn’t go unnoticed? Thems family breaks right there!
@VarunaTT, word. I’ll look out the window and it’s 70 and spring AND I CAN TAKE ON THE WORLD! Then next hour. Snow. Winter’s back. It’s cold, I’ll just snuggle under the covers for a month or two more.

Happy Tuesday!

Tonight I have an IPL treatment which is supposed to help my rosecea. Fingers Crossed!

Also, I’m thinking about leasing my next car. Last time I bought, the guy was like “it seems like you buy a new car everytime your financing is up. If you do anyway, ever thought of leasing?” I told him I travel a lot. He said “then pad your miles”.

My SIL’s mom leases and loves it. She says if she ever goes past her alotted miles, it’s not as bad as people think.

I would like a new car for many reasons, I drive a mazda cx3 and it’s just to small for me. I’d love a cx5 or another comparable SUV. Also, a remote car start from my phone is a must for next winter.

Lay it on me. Pros vs Cons of leasing.

banana468 · March 2022

levioosa said:

I am so mad for my bff. One of her cousins is having a baby. She was invited a few months ago to the shower. She also offered to throw a digital shower for people who couldn’t make it/who don’t want to travel because of Covid. She just got an un-invitation in the mail saying they wish they could have everyone, but because of “Covid” they can’t. Except her sister got a different invitation with a real in person shower. They’re still expecting her to throw the digital shower. And the un-invite still had the nerve to ask for gifts, oh, and don’t send a card, they don’t want those, they want an actual book. I literally cannot. How hurtful, tacky, and rude.

They did it to half a family!?! If she's close enough to that cousin can she ask what's going on and say how hurt she is? Yikes!

Similar to this there was a shower for DH's cousin having her first over the weekend. My MIL let me know to expect an invitation and I never got one. The family went with emailed invitations and I let MIL that while I checked I never got one. It wasn't a big deal to me - I was booked with a music concert for Chiquita and wouldn't have been able to attend. I sent a gift to the mother of the expectant cousin's home (where the shower was) and included well wishes from our home.

At the time I told MIL I wasn't invited I told her it was likely a typo/goof by the cousin. I have a first name that is rather common in the family and friends and the same last name as many people on DH's side of the family. If you're not referring to a prior invite/email list it's really easy to forget a letter and thanks to the millions of people using Gmail, it's probably still someone's email address. MIL is not technologically savvy and when this was explained - that they wouldn't get an error message if they sent it to a banana account that existed - she got hissy. MIL already has issues with that side of the family in general but I didn't engage and went on.

Saturday night we had dinner with MIL and FIL because FIL had Chiquito (and MIL joined later after the shower) while we were at the concert. MIL told us at the dinner table that the family asked about me and why I wasn't there and she loudly took it upon herself to say, "Banana wasn't INVITED!!!" She didn't start off with, "She's at a concert with Chiquita" because if I was free I would have emailed a family member just to check. I didn't say anything at the table and internally rolled my eyes. The family is rather aware of MIL's personality and how she can be....abrasive. I don't think it reflects on me as a result especially since there was a gift delivered but DH and I had a quiet discussion and he just muttered, "She couldn't just keep her mouth shut."

The next time I see the extended family I'll likely say it wasn't a big deal.

Interestingly enough - we went to a birthday party a few weeks ago with the same group and DH was rather candid about how his mother's personality isn't a big secret.

levioosa · March 2022

@banana468 it’s actually cousin’s wife. I think she thought they were close. I don’t know. Bff is very very sweet and family means everything to her. But it means that people often take advantage and treat her poorly. I think cousin’s wife was incredibly stupid to think two sisters wouldn’t share the news with each other? BFF had to text me because she was so confused about the non-invitation she received.

I told bff that if they want people to mail (expressly requested, don’t you dare send a card) a book then she should send a Miss Manner’s Etiquette book.

mrsconn23 · March 2022

WTF @levioosa?! That's so freaking rude. ANDPLUSALSO, how dumb can you be sending sisters different invites like they wouldn't compare notes?

March weather in the midwest is BS. We should not be having 75 degree days, followed by 2 days of tornado warnings, and then flurries. Plus temps are bottoming out this weekend at, like, 5. I wake up every day with a full-ass head of snot and a gross feeling in my throat from the nasal drip.

DH and I are considering leasing when I get my next car. Because I wah, it makes a ton of sense for us. Also, the fact that shit shouldn't go wrong during the lease period and you can sometimes get a service package with your lease for included or discounted oil changes are huge pluses in my book. I'd definitely start keeping track of your mileage for a month or two and then extrapolate that, plus add road trips twice a year or so, to figure out if the mileage limits are doable.

Worky, work. Blerg. Tuesday...blah.

mrsconn23 · March 2022

levioosa said:

@banana468 it’s actually cousin’s wife. I think she thought they were close. I don’t know. Bff is very very sweet and family means everything to her. But it means that people often take advantage and treat her poorly. I think cousin’s wife was incredibly stupid to think two sisters wouldn’t share the news with each other? BFF had to text me because she was so confused about the non-invitation she received.

I told bff that if they want people to mail (expressly requested, don’t you dare send a card) a book then she should send a Miss Manner’s Etiquette book.

There's etiquette books for kids. Bypass mom, maybe baby can learn. LOL

MNNEBride · March 2022

Is there a possibility the mother-to-be isn't aware and this is a goof by the shower hosts? If not, wow, just wow.

Not much going on here. SSDD. I need to pick up the house today as the cleaning folks come tomorrow. We have some piles of junk since we were couch potatoes all last week when we were sick. DH saw a robin in the yard this morning so spring is peeking around the corner but it'll be awhile until it's really here.

banana468 · March 2022

I've also seen the 'give a book as a card' thing and I hate it. Unless the card was a battery operated one the book is much more expensive! If that's how you want me to gift to you it's coming out of my budget so you're getting less of a "big" gift.

ei34 · March 2022

That's so rude @levioosa
Pretty SSDD here.

mrsconn23 · March 2022

banana468 said:

I've also seen the 'give a book as a card' thing and I hate it. Unless the card was a battery operated one the book is much more expensive! If that's how you want me to gift to you it's coming out of my budget so you're getting less of a "big" gift.

I think it's a nice suggestion as an 'add-on' request on a shower invite, but not a 'mandate'. I've seen invites where it's suggested you bring a book AND a pack of diapers. Like, no. Pick one because they're both expensive.

I usually earmark $50-75 for friend's babies and $100+ for family babies as shower gifts. So yeah, you're going to get $20 less in 'stuff' if I have to bring a book and diapers.

banana468 · March 2022

mrsconn23 said:

banana468 said:

I've also seen the 'give a book as a card' thing and I hate it. Unless the card was a battery operated one the book is much more expensive! If that's how you want me to gift to you it's coming out of my budget so you're getting less of a "big" gift.

I think it's a nice suggestion as an 'add-on' request on a shower invite, but not a 'mandate'. I've seen invites where it's suggested you bring a book AND a pack of diapers. Like, no. Pick one because they're both expensive.

I usually earmark $50-75 for friend's babies and $100+ for family babies as shower gifts. So yeah, you're going to get $20 less in 'stuff' if I have to bring a book and diapers.

Right?!

Also the diaper thing is such BS to me unless you're buying something like size 5 diapers for the mom to use in a year. Give the mom some gift certificates but when the kids are hopping through diaper sizes with nearly every time they get changed it's an expensive item that takes a lot of space that may not even be used. At my baby shower a good friend made me a diaper cake and it was all the diapers her 8 mo stopped wearing.

climbingsingle · March 2022

Ugh, Second Monday.

I've had a lot going on lately. Some shit went down at my job last week and I was so angry that I actually walked out. And then took the following day off. And during that, a team member of mine quit because she was also fed up (not with me, this falls strictly at the owners' feet). One owner is still trying to convince her not to leave. I've been applying for jobs for a few weeks already and am hoping to hear back from one this week. We had a really great phone interview.

In happier news, N and I have decided to move in together. We're working out all the details now, but the timing just made sense with my lease ending. We've done some trial runs and so far, everything has been great. Next month is our year "anniversary", which I'm putting in quotes because in the beginning neither of us was even looking for a relationship. Funny how things things work out! I'm really, really happy.

Anyway, I'd say SSDD but work is just..weird? I feel very detached.

charlotte989875 · March 2022

Wow @climbingsingle I’m so happy for you and N!!

MyNameIsNot · March 2022

Tuesdays suck.

@CharmedPam; I'm not a huge fan of leasing, but it's because I don't like to be on anyone else's time table for a car. I prefer to pay off a car and drive it for a few years with no payment. If you're buying a new one as soon as (or before) the old one is paid off anyway, leasing probably makes more sense.

banana468 · March 2022

We're buy the car and use it up people. But I also do not drive a lot. My current vehicle is 11 years old and has 95,000 miles so we would be paying through the nose for a lease.

short+sassy · March 2022

@climbingsingle, that's quite an update! Good and bad. Sounds like what happened at your work was very bad, to prompt you walking out and taking the next day off. I'd say I hope things get smoothed over but, especially with your other coworker leaving, your workplace sounds toxic. I hope you get snapped up into another, better job soon. At least you already had a phone interview. Good luck with it.

That's exciting news about "N"! If I'm not mistaken, he lives in a different part of NY state? How far away are you all from each other? If it's far, are you looking for job opportunities closer to him and/or WFH? That could be a nice two-fer. Move-in after your lease ends with a new job elsewhere.

ei34 · March 2022

Whew @climbingsingle, sorry for all of the work nonsense! Hoping that the interview that went well leads to something and yay for the living with N plans!

climbingsingle · March 2022

short+sassy said:

@climbingsingle, that's quite an update! Good and bad. Sounds like what happened at your work was very bad, to prompt you walking out and taking the next day off. I'd say I hope things get smoothed over but, especially with your other coworker leaving, your workplace sounds toxic. I hope you get snapped up into another, better job soon. At least you already had a phone interview. Good luck with it.

That's exciting news about "N"! If I'm not mistaken, he lives in a different part of NY state? How far away are you all from each other? If it's far, are you looking for job opportunities closer to him and/or WFH? That could be a nice two-fer. Move-in after your lease ends with a new job elsewhere.

Yup, he's in upstate NY. About an hour from his place to mine. I've mostly been applying to remote jobs. I've found a few up by him, but the pay is pretty crappy unfortunately.

charlotte989875 · March 2022

banana468 said:

mrsconn23 said:

banana468 said:

I've also seen the 'give a book as a card' thing and I hate it. Unless the card was a battery operated one the book is much more expensive! If that's how you want me to gift to you it's coming out of my budget so you're getting less of a "big" gift.

I think it's a nice suggestion as an 'add-on' request on a shower invite, but not a 'mandate'. I've seen invites where it's suggested you bring a book AND a pack of diapers. Like, no. Pick one because they're both expensive.

I usually earmark $50-75 for friend's babies and $100+ for family babies as shower gifts. So yeah, you're going to get $20 less in 'stuff' if I have to bring a book and diapers.

Right?!

Also the diaper thing is such BS to me unless you're buying something like size 5 diapers for the mom to use in a year. Give the mom some gift certificates but when the kids are hopping through diaper sizes with nearly every time they get changed it's an expensive item that takes a lot of space that may not even be used. At my baby shower a good friend made me a diaper cake and it was all the diapers her 8 mo stopped wearing.

Yes! We’re still storing some diapers we got during a diaper party, but they don’t fit baby M yet and they’re not the kind we use. So like thanks but this isn’t as helpful as people think.

banana468 · March 2022

charlotte989875 said:

banana468 said:

mrsconn23 said:

banana468 said:

I've also seen the 'give a book as a card' thing and I hate it. Unless the card was a battery operated one the book is much more expensive! If that's how you want me to gift to you it's coming out of my budget so you're getting less of a "big" gift.

I think it's a nice suggestion as an 'add-on' request on a shower invite, but not a 'mandate'. I've seen invites where it's suggested you bring a book AND a pack of diapers. Like, no. Pick one because they're both expensive.

I usually earmark $50-75 for friend's babies and $100+ for family babies as shower gifts. So yeah, you're going to get $20 less in 'stuff' if I have to bring a book and diapers.

Right?!

Also the diaper thing is such BS to me unless you're buying something like size 5 diapers for the mom to use in a year. Give the mom some gift certificates but when the kids are hopping through diaper sizes with nearly every time they get changed it's an expensive item that takes a lot of space that may not even be used. At my baby shower a good friend made me a diaper cake and it was all the diapers her 8 mo stopped wearing.

Yes! We’re still storing some diapers we got during a diaper party, but they don’t fit baby M yet and they’re not the kind we use. So like thanks but this isn’t as helpful as people think.

Also that!

I'll admit that my kids didn't have sensitive skin so I wasn't huge needing to find a diaper that would reduce/eliminate a rash. However, as a newborn my kids absolutely could not do Target diapers. Maybe something changed in the last 10 years but I didn't even try them for Chiquito and for Chiquita I did laundry every time she had a #2. No thanks!

charlotte989875 · March 2022

banana468 said:

charlotte989875 said:

banana468 said:

mrsconn23 said:

banana468 said:

I've also seen the 'give a book as a card' thing and I hate it. Unless the card was a battery operated one the book is much more expensive! If that's how you want me to gift to you it's coming out of my budget so you're getting less of a "big" gift.

I think it's a nice suggestion as an 'add-on' request on a shower invite, but not a 'mandate'. I've seen invites where it's suggested you bring a book AND a pack of diapers. Like, no. Pick one because they're both expensive.

I usually earmark $50-75 for friend's babies and $100+ for family babies as shower gifts. So yeah, you're going to get $20 less in 'stuff' if I have to bring a book and diapers.

Right?!

Also the diaper thing is such BS to me unless you're buying something like size 5 diapers for the mom to use in a year. Give the mom some gift certificates but when the kids are hopping through diaper sizes with nearly every time they get changed it's an expensive item that takes a lot of space that may not even be used. At my baby shower a good friend made me a diaper cake and it was all the diapers her 8 mo stopped wearing.

Yes! We’re still storing some diapers we got during a diaper party, but they don’t fit baby M yet and they’re not the kind we use. So like thanks but this isn’t as helpful as people think.

Also that!

I'll admit that my kids didn't have sensitive skin so I wasn't huge needing to find a diaper that would reduce/eliminate a rash. However, as a newborn my kids absolutely could not do Target diapers. Maybe something changed in the last 10 years but I didn't even try them for Chiquito and for Chiquita I did laundry every time she had a #2. No thanks!

Yup. We had a hefty baby. The honest brand ones didn’t stand a chance, we needed the pampers swaddlers. And you don’t know what you’re going to need until you’re going through 3-4 onesies a day.

CharmedPam · March 2022

@climbingsingle keeping my fingers crossed something remote comes up. That would all work perfectly!

yeah I’m usually in a new car every 5 years after I’m done paying. I only drive 5 miles to work… most of my driving leisure.. i’m still pondering

levioosa · March 2022

I’m with you @CharmedPam. I really want a luxury vehicle and those are usually not super smart to buy (unless money really doesn’t matter to you and you’re fine with the expensive fixes). But then I might be driving a crazy amount to work each week (up to 400+ miles just for work weekly) and I don’t want to get reamed with the over mileage costs. Ugh.

@climbingsingle yay! I’m so glad you’re happy. Boo to shitty work situations though. Fingers crossed you find something fast, remote, and with great pay!

ILoveBeachMusic · March 2022

I spent this morning unloading the rest of my stuff from our closet. I got to workouts today - our bedroom is on the main floor and the room where we will be sleeping during the reno is on the second floor. 27 flights of stairs later it was all done!

My biopsy results came back negative. Thanks for your kind thoughts and words.

I leave tomorrow for Florida for almost a week. Hopefully all the demo and reframing will be done in the bathroom before I get back. Our builder came by this afternoon to check a few things. He says it will probably take 8 weeks because it is difficult to schedule the tradespeople. It could take less it just all depends.

Great news about you and N @climbingsingle. I'm happy for y'all. Good luck with the job search.

@CharmedPam we are drive them until they die people so leasing has never made sense for us.

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