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Classic: What is there to save?

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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I have a friend with whom I used to be quite close. But for the past few years, he’s had a growing obsession with Internet trolling. He spends most of his free time on Twitter trying to get a rise out of minor celebrities and reporters. I find this behavior childish and off-putting, but he gets a huge thrill when his targets respond to his baiting. He has a group of “friends” on social media who cheer him on, which I also find off-putting. Is there a kind and tactful way to suggest he look for a new hobby? Or should I just let our friendship continue to dwindle away?
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    Why do you want to be friends with this person? 
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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    I think a dwindle will be easy in this case.  Your friend is probably to busy on twitter to even notice imo.

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  • banana468banana468 member
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    "Are you really doing this again??"

    "You know, a person who is nice to you but is an asshat on the internet is also an asshat." 


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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    charlotte989875 said:
    Why do you want to be friends with this person? 
    Exactly this. 
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  • ei34ei34 member
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    LW answered themself with their final sentence.  Why cling to this friendship?  
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    LW is kinda fvcking pretentious.  You don't have to like your friend's hobby, but GTFO with the judging of it.  Let the friendship dwindle away, b/c you suck as a friend, LW.
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  • downtondivadowntondiva member
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    VarunaTT said:
    LW is kinda fvcking pretentious.  You don't have to like your friend's hobby, but GTFO with the judging of it.  Let the friendship dwindle away, b/c you suck as a friend, LW.
    It's pretentious to disapprove of harassing strangers online? 
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I'd have a really hard time being friends with someone that purposely and repeatedly harassed people online. 
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    I dunno, I feel like if you actively seek out hurting people, especially if you do it for fun, then I get to judge the shit out of you and you’re pretty much a terrible person. 


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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    edited March 2022
    Because I think LW has an element of dishonesty and needs to be read with some skepticism.

    Do I give any shits if a friend is trolling J.K. Rowlings online?  Would I laugh if they got a rise out of her?  James Woods?  Donald Trump?  Any of the Trump children? etc.  Also, what is the harassment?  Is it "Hey J.K Rowlings, your face is ugly?"  or is it "Hey, J.K. Rowlings, you being a TERF makes you an ugly fvcking human being!".  Honestly, I don't care about either one, but there is an element of deserved critical trolling vs. trolling someone's things they can't do anything about.  If a PoC/LGBTQ+ person wants to troll TF out of a racist homophobic person, I'm probably going to applaud them.

    If it was Jameela Jamil, who I was very upset with the level of trolling and the kind of trolling she took, there might need to be a conversation with my friend.  This is what makes it not such a black and white conversation and why I think the LW sucks.

    Hell, this board has trolled plenty of times in the past, when a poster has showed up for various reasons.  Trolling isn't always this ugly element of humanity, nor is it a simple judgement.  So again, if LW doesn't like it, step away, but "suggesting he look for a new hobby"?  STFU already, make your personal boundary and stick to it, but leave your friend alone.
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