My parents told me that they are planning an after party at the hotel they are staying at since our wedding ends at 9 pm. They said it is also for the out of town guests and for people they haven't seen in awhile. My parents are paying for snacks and it is a cash bar. My fiancé and I are introverted so we will not be attending the after party and my parents know this. We will be staying overnight at the venue and are not going to the hotel at all. My parents want me to list the after party as an event on our wedding website. I told them that I don't feel comfortable putting it on our website because my fiance and I are not going and that I'd rather have them spread it by word of mouth or announce it at the end of the reception. They are giving me a hard time about including it on the website.
They're also paying to extend the wedding by an hour (to end at 9 instead of 8) even though I told them my fiance and I are leaving at 8. They said they would be mad if we didn't stay. We are also having a bigger guest list than we originally wanted, but my parents insisted on certain people being there.
My parents are paying for the wedding, but I feel if we put the after party on our website we will feel expected or pressured to go.
Do you think I'm being unreasonable by not wanting to include the after party on our website and have it spread by word of mouth instead?