Dear Prudence,
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 10 years. We are in our mid-20s and recently moved in together in a city that is new to both of us. I am a graduate student; he works part time. The particular job he has isn’t working out for him due to some health issues/advice from his doctor that he should not work this type of job. He is both trying to work something out with his current workplace and is looking for a new job altogether. It is important to add that he has mental health issues for which he is currently being treated. I also have mental health issues which I am being treated for as well, mainly with therapy.
The problem I am having is that I need his help more around our place and want more effort in our relationship. I am the one that cleans our apartment, I do all of the cooking, I make sure it looks nice for us and for when guests come over, I make service requests to maintenance about things that need to be fixed, etc. I am so anxious even just typing this and thinking about it. I feel guilty about being resentful over this and demanding that he do more because of his mental health issues, which (I believe) are more severe than mine. What should I do?
— Don’t Want to Be a Nag