Dear Prudence,
I feel like my parents have faced nothing but disappointment in life. Both of them have had to work their tails off, and even in their 70s, won’t be able to retire any time soon. Meanwhile, both have siblings that are very, very well off (one from working a very successful job, one from marrying a man who was very successful), who have traveled the world, and live extremely comfortably. All of my cousins on both sides are also successful, and have children of their own, so my aunts/uncles have plenty of grandchildren. Meanwhile, neither my brother nor I are married/have children (I know my parents would love to have grandchildren), and likely won’t. My brother has been handful, even now, well into his adult life, and a constant source of stress for my parents. I am moderately successful—I have a career that I am proud of, and I know they are too, but I don’t make nearly enough money to be able to help them in a way that I would like. My parents gave up so much so that my brother and I could live comfortably, and have opportunities they couldn’t take, and I can’t do anything to make that up to them … and I’m just overwhelmed with guilt about it. I guess I’m not really sure what my question is, other than, what can I do about it?
— Disappointing Daughter