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What in the white nonsense?

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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edited April 2022 in Wedding Woes

Dear Prudence,

My partner and I are having a wedding early next year. We are starting to finalize our guest list. And Prudie, it’s mostly white people. My partner and I are both white with all-white families, mostly white family friends, and unfortunately, our circle of friends—while extremely queer—is majority white. Yeah, it’s the worst, and we hate it. And we want to actively and intentionally know and bond with more people of color. Do you have any advice for going about this without compromising spaces for people of color or causing feelings of tokenization? Similarly, we don’t want our wedding guests who are people of color to feel tokenized or uncomfortable at our wedding.

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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    Your way overthinking this.

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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    Oh the caucacity. 
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    What the fuck did I just read. 
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Way overthinking it. 

    DH and I discussed it slightly because we fell in love with our photographer and he said "Don't worry I'll blend in I promise!" when he advised that he's not intrusive or rude and he gets great photos.  We knew he would be great and he was.  But he was also the only black person in attendance at our wedding.   

    We're both white from white families and really didn't have a diverse upbringing.  The diversity of our wedding guests were our friends and partners who were Asian.  I hope no one felt uncomfortable. 
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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    What?!?!  How DARE the members of your families all be white, like you all are.

    I hope you all are at least planning to adopt POC babies to improve this for your all's generations, going forward.

    ((All the sarcasm))

    I realize they are probably more talking about their friends.  But it feels icky to strive to make POC friends because it is icky.  Plus, in many parts of the country, "white" is the predominant race demographics-wise.  So, if 20% of the people where you live are POC, it wouldn't be unusual that 20% of one's friends are POC.  That's statistics.
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    I apparently want to just respond in gifs or images today.  Is this the new, "Your wedding is not the UN Summit" post for me?  

    Jess on Twitter What in the caucasity is this shit httpstcoxw40TPVfC2 Twitter
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