this is the code for the render ad
Wedding Woes

Ask her to stop? You can also not hang out with her alone...?

Dear Prudence,

I am a 30-ish year-old man. I never had a father, but I have many sisters and a mother who I grew up alongside. As a result, most of my friends are women because I understand how to connect with them very well. I have a friend who I care for dearly, but she has a persistent habit of getting naked in front of me when we spend time together. It’s not sexual, usually she wants to show me new clothes or try on some of mine. She has a boyfriend and he’s a great guy; they have a strained long-distance relationship but no indication of wanting to be with other people. My friend is very beautiful, but I’m not attracted to her in any way and only see her as a friend, and I’m fairly confident she sees me the same way as well. I know that her boyfriend is very uncomfortable with her taking her clothes off in front of other men and if he knew she did this in front of me, I think he would be very upset, and so I feel very guilty when this happens. She is very sex and body positive, has strong feminist ideals that I respect, and I don’t want to encroach on her identity in any way. If I was a woman and this was happening, I don’t think anyone would find it unusual. I think she just sees me same way as her other girlfriends. What should I do?

— Bashful

Re: Ask her to stop? You can also not hang out with her alone...?

  • Hang out in public only.  

  • I really wonder if LW has said anything here.

    If they have, then definitely don't be alone. Friend is looking for the attention since their relationship is strained.
  • If it's making you uncomfortable, say so. 

    The part about the boyfriend's feelings rubs me the wrong way, though. LW never directly says it bothers him and is pretty sure that it doesn't bother her. His problem seems to be that the boyfriend would have a problem with it and that's why it's an issue. It's like the same line of reasoning where single women wear rings to avoid catcalling because men only respect another man's turf. 
    Bolded, yes but this isn't always the case
    I've been catcalled from teenage boys while with M - like holding hands.

    {side fact - I dispise that wearing a ring or often showing you're not solo is a think to keep men away *eye roll*}
Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards