Dear Prudence,
My husband and I had a threesome with another person. He has since become almost “best friends” with them. He tells me it’s strictly platonic and I wholeheartedly believe him, but I’m struggling with insecurities that I am no longer enough and fear of abandonment. This has caused us to fight almost daily and is driving us further apart, when it was supposed to bring us closer. I feel like the friendship is taking priority over our marriage, but since my husband doesn’t feel that way, he is reluctant to change. He says, “we’ve already stopped the sex like you wanted, now you want me to stop the friendship. What do I get out of it?” I’m at a loss. We’ve agreed to begin counseling, but I don’t want my insecurities to ruin our marriage.
— Scared and Insecure