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Dear Prudence,

I accidentally criticized someone’s child because I didn’t know it was her child. Of course, she was irate. Is there any way to fix this?

— I Feel So Stupid

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  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe member
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    banana468 said:
    Did the kid deserve it? 


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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited August 2022
    I mean sure, the kid may have been acting a fool, but I don't think it matters in this instance.  If the mom wasn't thrilled with the feedback, there's not much you can do to backtrack from it.  You said what you said.  It wasn't an 'accidental' criticism, you just told the wrong person. 

    Also, it doesn't sound like you know this person well.  I think more context is needed to determine if there is any reason to even try to salvage this.  
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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    I also want to know the story!  It's hard to give much advice, otherwise.

    I'm picturing something funny like...I'm so sorry when I said, "Look at that greedy child taking the biggest cupcake.  His parents need to teach him some manners."  I didn't realize that was YOUR greedy child and you are the one who needs to teach him some manners. 
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    That's what I want to know. 

    I mean, I don't mutter under my breath what I think of some of the kids at the pool on purpose.
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  • MissKittyDangerMissKittyDanger member
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    Depends on situation but I can assure you I'd be irate if someone said something snarky about my kid.
    Deserved or not
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    MissKittyDanger said:
    Depends on situation but I can assure you I'd be irate if someone said something snarky about my kid.
    Deserved or not
    Right.  So what does the LW want to say, "I'm sorry I turned off the filter that day." 
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    banana468 said:
    MissKittyDanger said:
    Depends on situation but I can assure you I'd be irate if someone said something snarky about my kid.
    Deserved or not
    Right.  So what does the LW want to say, "I'm sorry I turned off the filter that day." 
    Tbh LW is too far away from the fact.
    Even if LW apologized, and I was that mom I wouldn't take it seriously because LW still said it
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    MissKittyDanger said:
    banana468 said:
    MissKittyDanger said:
    Depends on situation but I can assure you I'd be irate if someone said something snarky about my kid.
    Deserved or not
    Right.  So what does the LW want to say, "I'm sorry I turned off the filter that day." 
    Tbh LW is too far away from the fact.
    Even if LW apologized, and I was that mom I wouldn't take it seriously because LW still said it
    I mean, what is it that you say, "Look, when I called your kid a brat it was because you didn't do it first.  I am sorry I took your turn and next time I'll wait." 

    Or honestly if the mom is someone that the LW may want to interact with she can say, "I overstepped appropriate boundaries of parenting the other day with your daughter and I am sorry." 
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    short+sassy said:
    I also want to know the story!  It's hard to give much advice, otherwise.

    I'm picturing something funny like...I'm so sorry when I said, "Look at that greedy child taking the biggest cupcake.  His parents need to teach him some manners."  I didn't realize that was YOUR greedy child and you are the one who needs to teach him some manners. 
    This is what I'm envisioning. So basically, I talked shit about someone to the wrong person. 
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    Apologize if you see her again, but accept she may never talk you you again either. 
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