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Plus 1 for sisters wedding

knottie3857422a642f4480knottie3857422a642f4480 newb
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My only sister is getting married and I’m not in the wedding party. I was also denied a plus 1. Am I wrong for not going to the wedding out of spite?
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  • geebee908geebee908 member
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    knottie3857422a642f4480 said:
    My only sister is getting married and I’m not in the wedding party. I was also denied a plus 1. Am I wrong for not going to the wedding out of spite?
    A little more information might be helpful. Are you currently in a relationship with someone and your sister is not inviting that person? That would be very rude and insulting to your relationship. If you are currently single, your sister doesn't have to give you a plus-1. The difference is inviting only half of a couple, who are a social unit and need to be invited as a couple is rude; whereas, a plus-1 is allowing an invited guest to invite someone of their choosing, and it is not rude if that isn't offered to a guest.
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  • knottie3857422a642f4480knottie3857422a642f4480 newb
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    I’m in a new relationship with someone I met a few months ago prior to RSVPs being sent out. My sister and I have no relationship and when we do talk, I’m treated like crap. Is it wrong of me to want my person there with me for the week long event in another state? After all, it is my parents who are paying for everything.  
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  • ILoveBeachMusicILoveBeachMusic member
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    You are in a relationship (it doesn't matter how new that relationship is) so your partner should be invited. It is up to you if you go or not, but it could damage your relationship with your parents as well as your sister if you don't go. Talk to your sister about it. Could you talk to your parents about this if you can't talk to your sister?
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    You absolutely should have been extended an invite for your SO. If you don't speak, I understand why you were not asked to be in the wedding party. 

    It's really your choice to skip it. Will you end up regretting it eventually? Is there any hope in one day repairing your relationship with your sister? What if you spoke to her directly about it? Does she know you're in a relationship?
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    An invitation isn't a subpoena. If you don't want to attend, don't go. 

    You don't need to tell her it's because your partner isn't invited. You can simply say that you just can't make it. Or really, since you don't talk, you don't need to say anything at all. Sure, it would probably sour a normal sibling relationship, but it doesn't sound like there's any relationship there anyway. 
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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    knottie3857422a642f4480 said:
    I’m in a new relationship with someone I met a few months ago prior to RSVPs being sent out. My sister and I have no relationship and when we do talk, I’m treated like crap. Is it wrong of me to want my person there with me for the week long event in another state? After all, it is my parents who are paying for everything.  
    If your parents are paying for everything, then they are hosting, and control the guest list.  Tell your parents that you want your SO invited, and explain why it is etiquette appropriate.  You may or may not want to explain that if your SO is not extended an invitation, you may decline yours.

    If this is a week-long event, be aware that your SO may be on the hook for paying their own expenses.  Have your parents met your SO? 
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