Downpour Tuesday

ei34 · September 2022

Here anyway. We needed it.
Weekend was mixed. Have kinks to work out with stbxh regarding visiting kids, facetiming, etc. Little things as the dust settles, at least he's out. Hoping everyone has a good day!

climbingsingle · September 2022

I know we need the rain, but UGH what a shitty day for it to happen on. With it being the first day of school, it took me 2 hours to get to work. Accidents everywhere, so much traffic.

Weekend was nice and lowkey. It actually rained most of yesterday as well so we had a nice chill day.

VarunaTT · September 2022

I needed these 4 days off more than I really understood. I got so much sleep, and it was good sleep. I didn't end up having to nap very often, which is definitely an improvement. I caught up on some TV shows and movies, cooked for myself again, watched the race, worked on drag projects, and just basically did things for myself and my own enjoyment all 4 days. It was lovely and rejuvanating.

Otherwise, SSDD.

CharmedPam · September 2022

Rain’s the pits when you’re driving. LOVE being in the house in a good thunderstorm though.

Heading back home. I’ll have almost 2 days off with nothing to do. Parent’s are thinking of driving through the night so we can get home sooner. I had three full days back home and honestly it may have been enough. One more day would have been nice. My aunt we stayed with is off work and my neices don’t start school till tomorrow. My grandfather is 94.5 years old. My aunt told us in the last 6 months or so she noticed his memory going. He doesn’t remember my mom and dad at times, and you have to tell him who I am and then he knows. I sat down next to him at the wedding and he said “I know that I know you, I just don’t know your name”

. But he was cutting a rug on the dance floor. All the young guests were impressed:)

short+sassy · September 2022

@ei34, how did the move back home go? Sorry to hear it's raining heavily.

It was pouring rain for me on Saturday, but that was expected. My H and I studied more for the upcoming short-term rental we are going to later in the month. I'm feeling pretty solid with our progress.

Other than that, I used the extra time to recharge and get some extra household projects done.

We have a massive project starting today at one of our rentals. It's a duplex and we are replacing all the ceilings for both units. Dealing with handy people companies and individuals has always been hard. But it's almost downright impossible at the present time. We looked for MONTHS, just to have someone come out and give us a quote. We contacted 20+ companies. Most never returned our call. We had four companies come out to look at the job, but then three ghosted us and never gave us a quote. This is the first and only company that gave us one, smh.

Not a cheap price! But a fair one. I was expecting/hoping to pay $5-$6K, for labor only. Their quote is $6900, including materials. More than I was expecting, but not by a crazy amount and it's not like I have any other choices. It just really sucks to have such a major and expensive repair that doesn't even add any value to the house.

This was kind of weird and funny. Coincidentally, for this same duplex. A tree landed on it a year ago, during Hurricane Ida. Fortunately, it didn't do any damage to the house, but needed to be removed off of it. Plus there was a large branch from a different tree hanging precariously over the driveway. We were incredibly lucky that a handyman (G) we'd used about a year before for a different project (he wasn't available for this current ceiling issue) was able to hook us up with someone he knew that got the work done. They were supposed to have given us a quote first, but ended up just doing the work instead. So we were a little concerned about that. From our understanding, G was responsible for paying the other person and we assume he did.

But months and months went by and G never told us how much it was. We even periodically sent text messages asking him for the total so we could give him a check. No response and then his phone number was disconnected. He finally got in touch with us about a month ago and told us it was $700 (that's fine). But dang! That was over 10 months after the work was done. I'm not complaining. It was like I got an interest free loan for almost a year. But it's surprising that trades people are sometimes not even very prompt/organized in picking up their money.

We had an electrician in our early days that would cash our checks 3-4 months later. He was great and we miss him. But he got busy and successful enough that he no longer does residential work and sticks to large-scale commercial work.

MissKittyDanger · September 2022

I'm back from holidays and BK started kindergarten today!

Katie on Instagram: “My baby is excited for junior kindergarten 😭”

Katie (@misskt) • Instagram photos and videos

I did post a few things while on holidays but it was good.
BK apparently decided 3 days ago she's done with pull ups, so she's been wearing undies overnight and completely dry.
I'm not calling it yet, but it's a solid progress. I still have sheets and pj bottoms set aside just in case

Anyways, it was busy but like good busy?
I told M next year, he's going in office for my holidays lol I know it's dumb, I just wanna have house to ourselves to do whatever. He's working so I don't wanna be quiet at certain times etc.

Wednesday we did aquarium. It was too expensive for what they had. Like I get it, but I wouldn't go again. SFIL & MIL may take her on March break because they'll have a mermaid.

Thursday we saw my mum. Her bf dropped her off at our place so obv BK had to drag them both up to see her new big bed. My mum's bf was checking out the zoo M made last year {he hadn't seen in person} and was super impressed. M isn't big on wood working and isn't pleased with it - but it's not bad. lol
After my mum, BK and I went grocery shopping and I dropped them at a splash pad while I dropped food at home.
It was a really nice day too.

Friday was rainy, so BK & I went for lunch and to dollarama. Then I was getting a headache, so BK accepted sitting in her room with her new book because I said mama needed a nap.

Week after we were in various states of in and out lol BK slept at my mum's place sunday night, and all 3 of us we were suppose to go to the mall but my mum had possibly beginning of a bladder infection so she opted out.
I took BK - we had lunch, got new Aristocat undies at H&M and then rode these fun motorized animals around lol
I had M come with us again and do it. So much fun lol

banana468 · September 2022

At least he's out @ei34!

Weekend went by in a flash!

Saturday I streamed the tribute concert for Taylor Hawkins as I cleaned the house and then we had dinner at the marina. Sunday was Chiquito's birthday party and it went well although a couple kids had a fear of heights and they may have enjoyed the cornhole more than harnessed climbing.

Sunday was FIL's birthday and MIL was annoying. We said we'd cook lobster so because she hates the smell of lobster in the house (and it was cooked outside) she set up tables in the garage. It was in the upper 70s and rained off and on and it was GROSS. She also pushed the time to 4:00 and DH called to remind her that we could do that but I told her on Saturday night I had to attend a Zoom meeting for Chiquita's GS so moving things to 4:00 rushed DH who was cooking. MIL acted like she totally forgot about what I told her two days earlier which was eyeroll worthy. By the time the sun was setting the mosquitos were hitting DH and the garage door was closed and it was stifling. I flat out told DH that if we have another day like that and the smell is that important to MIL we can have the party at our house. I'm not going to suffer in the disgusting because she can't handle the smell of seafood in her garbage for 6 hours.

charlotte989875 · September 2022

Happy 1st day of school to all who celebrate! I’m loving seeing the pictures!

The weekend was great! We went to the zoo for the first time and M LOVED the Meerkats. He kept running in a circle yelling “run around the meerkats”. Seriously the best thing I’ve ever seen. When people would walk up to the exhibit he’d yell “meerkats” and point at them. The best.

short+sassy · September 2022

@CharmedPam, I'm sorry to hear about your grandpa's decline!

It reminds me of a story from a previous coworker. Her mother started suffering from dementia, but they were fortunate that she kept her sweet character that she'd had her whole life. She was a regular church-goer and her pastor would usually visit her at home a few times a month. I'm going to make up the name Anna.

He would usually start the visit asking if she knew who he was. Sometimes she did, sometimes she didn't. If she didn't, he would introduce himself. But one time her reply was:

Said sheepishly, but with a smile, "No, I don't. But I know that I love you!"

I just thought that was a great example of someone with that condition having a hard time with specifics like a name, but the warm feelings they have for a person are still there.

short+sassy · September 2022

For a less charming example, the neighborhood turmoil continues. Our neighbor and friend (S) has had dementia quickly approach. Unfortunately, her dementia has turned her violent and abusive. She's in her 80s and has been in poor physical condition for a long time, but her mind was fine, up until the last 6ish months. Plus she's an alcoholic...but is on dialysis...which, from what I understand, is a horrible combination because she can't filter the alcohol out of her system.

Our other neighbor (C) was over at her house the other day. S was drinking while they were hanging out. After a couple hours, her demeanor totally changed. She no longer knew who C was and thought she was an intruder in her house. She starts screaming at her and hitting her. C was explaining who she was and how they know each other, but finally had to leave.

That was the first I'd heard about S behaving like this, when I asked my H, he verified it. I don't see S very much, but my H does. I know he purposely hadn't told me. He used to give her a lot of help, but said he's had to step back some because she's usually angry and screaming about something. He feels bad because he knows it's not the "real her" but, at the same time, we aren't her family and he's not going to be verbally abused while he's doing her favors. He did contact the only family she has, a cousin who lives in MS, but there isn't much that woman can do either.

It is so much tragedy, all around. S is trying to sell her house, so she can move into assisted living. But it's priced way too high and there have been no showing requests in the 3 months it's been listed. Even if she had an offer, she no longer has the mental capacity to sign legal documents anyway. It's this crazy situation where she desperately needs to appoint someone power of attorney to handle her affairs. Especially this house sale. But that would involve her realizing she needs this help.

Additionally, it probably doesn't even matter what she sells it for. Medicaid is going to charge her for her own care, until every penny of that sale is gone. S had a decent understanding of that about a year ago. But I doubt she does now.

TBH, it gives a lot of food for thought. Neither my H nor I have children either. Neither one of us are close to our family and they all live far away anyway. How do we protect our own selves from ourselves, if we start to develop dementia or alzheimers? I need to look for answers to that. S has been a wake-up call on what can happen.

MyNameIsNot · September 2022

Weekend was ok. We drove down to the beach where SIL lives. MIL flew here and rode down with us. She can be difficult at times, and this weekend was one of those times. At least we ended up having pretty decent beach weather. I keep saying I'm never traveling on a holiday weekend again, but I stupidly keep doing it anyway. Our normal 5 hour drive turned into 8 yesterday because of holiday traffic. It's good to be getting back to normal today.

I'm so surprised to see so many kids starting school today. They're all over my FB as well. The kids here have been in school for a while! School schedules are weird.

CharmedPam · September 2022

short+sassy said:

TBH, it gives a lot of food for thought. Neither my H nor I have children either. Neither one of us are close to our family and they all live far away anyway. How do we protect our own selves from ourselves, if we start to develop dementia or alzheimers? I need to look for answers to that. S has been a wake-up call on what can happen.

I’m in that boat too and tbh, I may not find a life partner to go through all that with. I’m hoping one of my neices and nephews can put me in a home when it’s time. Also, from what I hear about those homes - there’s a really good chance I won’t even be able to afford those either. And who wants to put up crazy old aunt Pam with them? I wouldn’t want to burden them.

What a cute story about Anna @“short+sassy"

@charlotte989875 M sounds adorbs.

banana468 · September 2022

MyNameIsNot said:

Weekend was ok. We drove down to the beach where SIL lives. MIL flew here and rode down with us. She can be difficult at times, and this weekend was one of those times. At least we ended up having pretty decent beach weather. I keep saying I'm never traveling on a holiday weekend again, but I stupidly keep doing it anyway. Our normal 5 hour drive turned into 8 yesterday because of holiday traffic. It's good to be getting back to normal today.

I'm so surprised to see so many kids starting school today. They're all over my FB as well. The kids here have been in school for a while! School schedules are weird.

It's odd even within the state. A few CT towns are back today. My kids were back on the 29th of Aug and I saw other people back on Thursday the 25th. And CT is not a big state!

MissKittyDanger · September 2022

@charlotte989875 I'm the same with some animals lol

@short+sassy you can assign an executor to power of attorney. It doesn't have to be family even if you had kids.

short+sassy · September 2022

MissKittyDanger said:

@charlotte989875 I'm the same with some animals lol

@short+sassy you can assign an executor to power of attorney. It doesn't have to be family even if you had kids.

True, but then I need to pay for it and I'd suspect it's a lot.

More importantly, I wouldn't want to assign someone to be my power of attorney until I needed it. But then my concern would be exactly what happened to S. That, by the time I need one, I won't realize it.

I looked up some quick stats and it sounds like the most likely age for the onset to start is sometime in one's 80s. I'm unlikely to live that long, so I feel a little better about it. Kind of, lol. But if I'm still alive when I'm 80, that might be a good time to employ a power of attorney to handle my affairs, jic.

The same article said that, by the age of 85, about 50% of people have some form of dementia. Yikes.

The irony is, her best friend (D) lived with her for 30+ years and started developing dementia about 5-6 years ago. D didn't believe it either and life became increasingly difficult for S to manage her. D was finally put in a nursing home about one year ago. We thought it would make life a lot easier for S but, instead, she spiraled into a depression. You'd think watching what happened to D would have been the wake-up call for S. But it wasn't, so here we are.

MyNameIsNot · September 2022

@short+sassy, I think the important thing to do in preparation is to find someone to be the POA and start having those conversations with them about what they'll be asked to do. Maybe not right now, but waiting until it's time for them to take over seems risky. But I get it; not wanting to confront your own impending decline pushes a lot of inertia.

I also don't know what my plan will be. I'm hoping that at least one of my niblings will be willing and able when I'm old, but I need to wait for them to grow up first.

Jen4948 · September 2022

The sun came out and I had lunch with a friend. But otherwise, it's been a sucky day. One job application that seemed promising fell through. Another wanted an extra week to make a decision because "they were too busy" but this company had been in a hurry to interview me and told me to expect a decision today.

ei34 · September 2022

banana468 said:

MyNameIsNot said:

Weekend was ok. We drove down to the beach where SIL lives. MIL flew here and rode down with us. She can be difficult at times, and this weekend was one of those times. At least we ended up having pretty decent beach weather. I keep saying I'm never traveling on a holiday weekend again, but I stupidly keep doing it anyway. Our normal 5 hour drive turned into 8 yesterday because of holiday traffic. It's good to be getting back to normal today.

I'm so surprised to see so many kids starting school today. They're all over my FB as well. The kids here have been in school for a while! School schedules are weird.

It's odd even within the state. A few CT towns are back today. My kids were back on the 29th of Aug and I saw other people back on Thursday the 25th. And CT is not a big state!

Our SDs are pretty small area-wise, and there have been many differences among them. My students returned 8/31, my sister's kids 9/1, my kids 9/6...I will say that the student population in the district I work in is very Asian, so we get off for Diwali, Lunar New Year, Eid...my own kids don't get those days off, just no homework or tests that day. We all wind up with the same number of instructional days, there are just small differences throughout the year.

The northeast goes back way later than southern schools, that much I know. I have cousins in Florida who always went back mid-August and ended early June.

short+sassy · September 2022

ei34 said:

banana468 said:

MyNameIsNot said:

Weekend was ok. We drove down to the beach where SIL lives. MIL flew here and rode down with us. She can be difficult at times, and this weekend was one of those times. At least we ended up having pretty decent beach weather. I keep saying I'm never traveling on a holiday weekend again, but I stupidly keep doing it anyway. Our normal 5 hour drive turned into 8 yesterday because of holiday traffic. It's good to be getting back to normal today.

I'm so surprised to see so many kids starting school today. They're all over my FB as well. The kids here have been in school for a while! School schedules are weird.

It's odd even within the state. A few CT towns are back today. My kids were back on the 29th of Aug and I saw other people back on Thursday the 25th. And CT is not a big state!

banana468 said:

MyNameIsNot said:

Weekend was ok. We drove down to the beach where SIL lives. MIL flew here and rode down with us. She can be difficult at times, and this weekend was one of those times. At least we ended up having pretty decent beach weather. I keep saying I'm never traveling on a holiday weekend again, but I stupidly keep doing it anyway. Our normal 5 hour drive turned into 8 yesterday because of holiday traffic. It's good to be getting back to normal today.

I'm so surprised to see so many kids starting school today. They're all over my FB as well. The kids here have been in school for a while! School schedules are weird.

It's odd even within the state. A few CT towns are back today. My kids were back on the 29th of Aug and I saw other people back on Thursday the 25th. And CT is not a big state!

Our SDs are pretty small area-wise, and there have been many differences among them. My students returned 8/31, my sister's kids 9/1, my kids 9/6...I will say that the student population in the district I work in is very Asian, so we get off for Diwali, Lunar New Year, Eid...my own kids don't get those days off, just no homework or tests that day. We all wind up with the same number of instructional days, there are just small differences throughout the year.

The northeast goes back way later than southern schools, that much I know. I have cousins in Florida who always went back mid-August and ended early June.

So does CA, or at least it did when I was in school. Our first day back was around mid-September. But then summer didn't start until late June.

Where I currently live, there are a lot of private schools...we have more students, per capita, than any other city in the US*... so school start dates vary widely, but all of them start sometime in August. The public schools started in the first week of August this year.

Sorry for the turn to black:

*Not a brag, it's due to many layers of ugliness. Heavy Catholic demographic (not ugly). In the '60s, a way to keep white children from having to go to school with black children. In the present day, NOLA has one of the worst public school systems in the country, so people scrimp and save to send their child to a private school. For some families, that means there is no college savings for their child because that money went to their primary education. And the vicious cycle continues.

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