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Just don't renew the lease

CasadenaCasadena member
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Dear Prudence,

I own a condo. During COVID, my girlfriend “Anna” moved in. It wasn’t a good fit. Our personalities clashed too much and we both pretty much agreed to break up. I thought we could still be friends and offered to let Anna stay on a month-to-month lease until she saved enough to move out.

Then the housing market went nuts and Anna lost her job (she has gotten another one). It has been over a year. Anna shows no signs of wanting to get going and has even gone on two vacations with her family.

Any time I bring up the subject Anna shuts it down and tells me her finances are “none of my business.” I am tired of this. This is my home, not hers. I can’t bring anyone over or even explain that my ex has taken over my third bedroom but there is nothing sexual going on.

I am ready to tell Anna she was until the first of September to make her plans because the lease will not be renewed. This is all legal. But I don’t want to spend the next month with a woman on the warpath. Any thoughts?

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Re: Just don't renew the lease

  • levioosalevioosa member
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    Well you’re in a rock and a hard place because legally she had rights as a tenant and you have to notify her. And don’t expect her to go quietly either. 


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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Make it legal.  Lock up the stuff you're concerned she will destroy and document not only when she has to exit but that you will be conducting an inspection upon departure and failure to respect the living accommodations will result in assessments to be paid.  Upon serving the notice photograph everything and have it notorized.

    Anna's doing this and continues to get away with it.  Stop letting her. 
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    She's going to be horrible. You just have to batten down the hatches and ride it out. 30 days (or whatever) will suck, but then it will be over and worth it. 
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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    I'm curious how these conversations went.  It sounds like it was approached about her finances, hence why she made the bs comment that her finances aren't the LW's business.  But this was the wrong way to approach it.  It should have been more declarative statements like, "I'm glad you're back on your feet, Anna.  Because this living situation hasn't been working for a long time and you need to find another place.  What do you think is a reasonable time for you?"  If she balks, freaks out, and refuses to give an answer, then the LW should have been ready with a Notice to Vacate for whatever the appropriate amount of time is for their jurisdiction.  But if she was reasonable and said she could leave in (up to) 90 days, then they could give her that amount of time.  It's smoother that way, because it's Anna making the choice.

    Sounds like she is also living for free?  WTF?

    This is a ridiculous situation that the LW has let it go on for so long.  I'm also curious if they actually have a written lease.  I seriously doubt it but, it doesn't matter that much.  Without a lease, it falls to standard landlord/tenant laws in their jurisdiction.  Which will have the minimum required days that a notice to vacate needs to be given.

    It sounds like the LW is under some delusion that if they just don't renew the (probably imaginary) lease, then they can make Anna leave whenever they want.  That's not how it works.

    They give her the appropriate written notice.  If she leaves before it ends, great.  If she doesn't, then the LW would need to formally evict her through the court system.  I realize it's awkward with them being roommates and exes.  But when someone is being an unreasonable, mooching AH, you have to take those kind of extreme measures.
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