Wish It Were Sunday

banana468 · October 2022

How was the weekend?

It was a weekend of boys camping and girls at home. DH and Chiquito were camping at a state park Friday through Sunday and I was home with Chiquita while she had Girl Scout stuff Friday and Saturday and Sunday games. She was a cutie in her Care Bear costume (note: she did NOT know about the Care Bear stare!) and Saturday she played well while the team lost. I treated her to dinner at Hard Rock Cafe Saturday night and Sunday we were up early to head to church and then her 2nd game.

In the 2nd game she played keeper for the end of the first half and most of the second and in an attempt to block a goal she sprained her wrist. It still hurts her today and I'm hoping she can start to move it around soon. I had to help her get dressed this morning and ask her teachers for a friend to take notes for her.

It's now gross and raining and I have my fingers crossed for something good coming out of Garland's press conference this afternoon.

MyNameIsNot · October 2022

I loved girls' weekends with my mom when I was a kid. So much fun!

It was a busy weekend here with ILs in town. Friday, we took the afternoon off and went up to a couple of wineries in the mountains. I'm surprised at how much some of them have changed in the last few years. My 5 y/o niece was a trouper all day; I was so impressed! Saturday we went to one of those farms where they do apple picking and all the fall activities. It was fun, but so corny. Then bonfire and soup here for dinner. Yesterday breakfast out before everyone hit the road, and then we went to dinner with my parents for their anniversary.

Today is getting caught up with work and laundry-fest. I'm hoping for a boring week.

climbingsingle · October 2022

We had a good weekend. All the kids were here all weekend (the girls have been busy the last few weeks with all sorts of things) so it was nice to have them all under one roof at the same time. We went apple picking on Saturday and it was perfect weather. Organized more of the downstairs so we now have two more perfectly function rooms. N's youngest daughter is lobbying hard to move her room downstairs too.

The weekend was a bit of a bummer thanks to the Yankees. Whomp whomp. But at least the Giants won.

MissKittyDanger · October 2022

Weekend was good.
BK had solid listening issues this weekend. So that's .... fun.

We got our couches on Saturday - earlier in the day than expected.

Did groceries on Saturday after BK had gymnastics - which we think may have been too much for her. She's still not fully weened off naps so she crashed afterwards.

Sunday BK went to IL's to help decorate for Halloween. I was grateful because I woke up with a wicked headache so I napped a lot. Unfortunately it meant I slept like shit last night.
Today I don't have a headache but I swear it's like headache hangover.

Casadena · October 2022

Weekend was super fun. Friday trunk or treat was great - N had a blast and G refused to wear any part of his costume or trick or treat but had fun handing out candy with grandpa! Saturday we had family pictures and i'm so excited to get them back - then stopped at IL's for a few hours to see H's gma/aunt/uncle. Then IL's came over yesterday and took G to the park while N napped so H and I could get some stuff done around the house and grocery shop. Last night the boys were very tired and we managed to get them in bed early thankfully. H and I watched the new Hasan Minhaj standup special and it was fantastic - highly recommend.

short+sassy · October 2022

@banana468, sounds like a fun "girls" weekend, except for Chiquita's sprained wrist. I hope it improves a lot today.

The workshop I went to on Saturday was great! I bought the course and am pretty jazzed to start reading up on it. It's exactly what I was looking for to take advantage of the opportunities that will be coming up in RE over the next 1-2 years.

Work rant ahead:

Exactly what I knew would happen is happening, smh. Projects are heating up and I needed a little more help with the work I do. I did not ask for help and nor was I getting behind, but it was decided for me that I would need help with the upcoming workload. Except this workload isn't happening for MONTHS.

So, what do they do? Hire TWO people for the Procurement department (G and S), which I had previously been single-handedly doing myself. And then moved another employee into the steel work I do. They hired back G without saying anything to me. Then the big boss mentioned in passing they were going to be hiring more people for Procurement. I was thinking "WHOOAAA" and told him, "I appreciated G coming back on board, but another person would be overkill." And they hired S a couple months later anyway. Whatever.

Right. Underpay me for years with your crappy 3% raises. But then hire a superfluous person you don't need at all. Got it.

The employee (L) for the steel work helped me out in 2019. It was a situation where I was overloaded, but she had nothing to do in her normal job. I only needed her help for about 2 months. But then she glommed onto it and would take some of my billable work, at a time when I didn't have that much to do either. She rode on that for 7 months longer than she should have. Charging most of her hours to steel, when there was nowhere near enough work to justify that. It also PO'ed me because, if she was going to do fake charging, than why not spread some of that out to the projects related to her normal work duties.

I had even said something both to her and our big boss in Dec. 2019. I told the Big Boss (J) something like, "I've sure appreciated L's help. But steel is under control now and we don't have much going on." I told L, "As things start slowing down, just be careful with your timesheet. J knows a lot more about what is going on with this project than you'd think he does." But he didn't cut her out of that department until May 2020.

Now she has returned to steel because she has no work again in what she normally does. For about two weeks earlier this month, there were a lot of urgent packages that came in at once and it was great she was helping. But now I'm back to the Dec. 2019 situation. I don't need her help. The only thing she was ever supposed to do was be a "backup" for me.

So now S in Procurement keeps asking me for things to do. L in steel keeps asking me for packages to complete. I told L this morning that we only have about ten packages left for project XYZ (none of them urgent). And, once they're done, there's nothing. So she needs to be asking around for other work she can do.

Anyway, that's a long story to say that I've been telling the two big bosses for the last few months...especially before they hired the 2nd Procurement person...that there isn't enough work available for all of these people. "There will be", is what they keep telling me. According to them, steel is going to get crazy around March 2023. Okay. That's months from now.

Last time, they questioned me about my own time! That's why this s**t pisses me off. Back then, I received everyone's timesheet because of a different task I had. So I knew she was charging way too much to steel. I replied something like, "Yeah, steel has slowed down. That's why I'm only charging 10-15 hours/week. But there's enough work it shouldn't be less than that." The Big Boss asked if L was doing any steel work. I didn't totally throw her under the bus, but I'm not going to tell a blatant lie either. I left it a little vague with, "Sure, she also does packages sometimes. But, as I mentioned back in Dec., unless I get two urgent packages at once, I don't need her help anymore." She was told to stop charging to that project a few days later. Just sayin'. They already know she abused her ability to charge to steel projects. Yet here we are again.

charlotte989875 · October 2022

Ugh, baby M just got sent home from daycare. H was impossible to get a hold of because his cell reception sucks at the office so now I’m on hold trying to see if he need to go to the doctor. Ugh.

short+sassy · October 2022

charlotte989875 said:

Ugh, baby M just got sent home from daycare. H was impossible to get a hold of because his cell reception sucks at the office so now I’m on hold trying to see if he need to go to the doctor. Ugh.

Oh no! He was just sick so recently. It must be frustrating, especially on a work day. I hope it's something mild and no doctor visit needed.

short+sassy · October 2022

Real Estate and telemarketing:

Seller's market -- Constant, unsolicited calls and text messages from wholesalers wanting to buy your property for completely ridiculous and insultingly low prices.

Buyer's market -- Constant, unsolicited calls and text messages from private/investor lending firms.

A few months ago, it was the wholesalers. Now it's the lenders. I did have a too brief and lovely period where few people were bugging TF out of me, lol.

kerbohl · October 2022

@short+sassy I remember you talking about that employee fudging her time sheets! That sucks you have to deal with it again

It sounds like lots of people had nice weekends! so much great fall stuff to do right now. I did an escape room with a friend and then yesterday went for a nice long hike with my parents. The dog loved getting out - since I made Hubby take over dog care she doesn't get the long walks anymore, so I took her for two long ones this weekend while he was away. When he got home, we had a bit of a talk and things look hopeful, but we will see. We still have a ways to go, obviously, and he still needs to talk to someone about the kid thing to get his head straight on it. I think he recognizes that he shouldn't be a father - he doesn't really know what it involves.

short+sassy · October 2022

kerbohl said:

@short+sassy I remember you talking about that employee fudging her time sheets! That sucks you have to deal with it again

It sounds like lots of people had nice weekends! so much great fall stuff to do right now. I did an escape room with a friend and then yesterday went for a nice long hike with my parents. The dog loved getting out - since I made Hubby take over dog care she doesn't get the long walks anymore, so I took her for two long ones this weekend while he was away. When he got home, we had a bit of a talk and things look hopeful, but we will see. We still have a ways to go, obviously, and he still needs to talk to someone about the kid thing to get his head straight on it. I think he recognizes that he shouldn't be a father - he doesn't really know what it involves.

Good memory! To be fair, I assume she isn't fudging her timesheets...yet. But I assume she will because she did last time. They changed the way they handle timesheet data, so I no longer see the timesheets anymore. Which is just as well, so at least I don't I have to see it and be annoyed. I know it doesn't sound like it, but I really like her as a person. We used to share an office and have gone out to lunch a few times, over the years. But she needs to stay in her lane!

I'm glad you had a nice weekend and that you and H had more of a talk. From what you've said, it sounds like he wants a kid now. But isn't sure "how much". Whether for incompatibility reasons or infertility reasons, that's usually a tough call to make. How far and what huge sacrifices is a person or couple willing to make, to try and have a child. Especially when the outcome can be so uncertain. Whether that's leaving a marriage and "hoping" you find someone else to have a child with and that a child is really something they want, ie your H. Or spending a fortune on things like IVF treatments that may not work.

kerbohl · October 2022

short+sassy said:

kerbohl said:

@short+sassy I remember you talking about that employee fudging her time sheets! That sucks you have to deal with it again

It sounds like lots of people had nice weekends! so much great fall stuff to do right now. I did an escape room with a friend and then yesterday went for a nice long hike with my parents. The dog loved getting out - since I made Hubby take over dog care she doesn't get the long walks anymore, so I took her for two long ones this weekend while he was away. When he got home, we had a bit of a talk and things look hopeful, but we will see. We still have a ways to go, obviously, and he still needs to talk to someone about the kid thing to get his head straight on it. I think he recognizes that he shouldn't be a father - he doesn't really know what it involves.

Good memory! To be fair, I assume she isn't fudging her timesheets...yet. But I assume she will because she did last time. They changed the way they handle timesheet data, so I no longer see the timesheets anymore. Which is just as well, so at least I don't I have to see it and be annoyed. I know it doesn't sound like it, but I really like her as a person. We used to share an office and have gone out to lunch a few times, over the years. But she needs to stay in her lane!

I'm glad you had a nice weekend and that you and H had more of a talk. From what you've said, it sounds like he wants a kid now. But isn't sure "how much". Whether for incompatibility reasons or infertility reasons, that's usually a tough call to make. How far and what huge sacrifices is a person or couple willing to make, to try and have a child. Especially when the outcome can be so uncertain. Whether that's leaving a marriage and "hoping" you find someone else to have a child with and that a child is really something they want, ie your H. Or spending a fortune on things like IVF treatments that may not work.

Not only that, but what comes after .... he has never babysat, never changed a diaper, rarely spends extended time around children younger than high schoolers ... He seems to now be leaning towards not having kids though, but he says he will need to fill that void.

banana468 · October 2022

kerbohl said:

short+sassy said:

kerbohl said:

@short+sassy I remember you talking about that employee fudging her time sheets! That sucks you have to deal with it again

It sounds like lots of people had nice weekends! so much great fall stuff to do right now. I did an escape room with a friend and then yesterday went for a nice long hike with my parents. The dog loved getting out - since I made Hubby take over dog care she doesn't get the long walks anymore, so I took her for two long ones this weekend while he was away. When he got home, we had a bit of a talk and things look hopeful, but we will see. We still have a ways to go, obviously, and he still needs to talk to someone about the kid thing to get his head straight on it. I think he recognizes that he shouldn't be a father - he doesn't really know what it involves.

Good memory! To be fair, I assume she isn't fudging her timesheets...yet. But I assume she will because she did last time. They changed the way they handle timesheet data, so I no longer see the timesheets anymore. Which is just as well, so at least I don't I have to see it and be annoyed. I know it doesn't sound like it, but I really like her as a person. We used to share an office and have gone out to lunch a few times, over the years. But she needs to stay in her lane!

I'm glad you had a nice weekend and that you and H had more of a talk. From what you've said, it sounds like he wants a kid now. But isn't sure "how much". Whether for incompatibility reasons or infertility reasons, that's usually a tough call to make. How far and what huge sacrifices is a person or couple willing to make, to try and have a child. Especially when the outcome can be so uncertain. Whether that's leaving a marriage and "hoping" you find someone else to have a child with and that a child is really something they want, ie your H. Or spending a fortune on things like IVF treatments that may not work.

Not only that, but what comes after .... he has never babysat, never changed a diaper, rarely spends extended time around children younger than high schoolers ... He seems to now be leaning towards not having kids though, but he says he will need to fill that void.

Maybe he needs to be in a mentoring program?

You can still be a great influence on a child and not be a parent.

CharmedPam · October 2022

Jeez @short+sassy, that’s annoying. It’d be cheaper for them to give you a decent raise rather than hiring new people. And then in May of 2023, see if it’s needed for 1 more? What if that prediction falls through?
@banana468 sorry about Chiquita’s wrist. What we don’t do for the love of the game?
@charlotte989875 hope it was nothing serious?
@kerbohl keeping my fingers crossed you and H go the direction you both want

We had a lovely lovely weekend. Went to a costume street fest that turned out fantastic. I wasn’t going to dress up in costume but at last minute threw a goth zombie thing together and I was glad I did. The majority of the people were in costume. It was supposed to be a meet up of 9 people. 4 were there. 2 we never met up with because of the crowds, but me and the organizer hung out.

Sunday, weather was just as good. I did my lawn and put my hot tub away. In doing so, I think while scooping out the last bit of water in it, I must have pulled my back. That, along with 5 hours of standing/walking on Saturday and my back was in SO much pain yesterday for it. I had to take prescription pain killers and man alive I was flying high yesterday. It worked though.

kerbohl · October 2022

banana468 said:

kerbohl said:

short+sassy said:

kerbohl said:

@short+sassy I remember you talking about that employee fudging her time sheets! That sucks you have to deal with it again

It sounds like lots of people had nice weekends! so much great fall stuff to do right now. I did an escape room with a friend and then yesterday went for a nice long hike with my parents. The dog loved getting out - since I made Hubby take over dog care she doesn't get the long walks anymore, so I took her for two long ones this weekend while he was away. When he got home, we had a bit of a talk and things look hopeful, but we will see. We still have a ways to go, obviously, and he still needs to talk to someone about the kid thing to get his head straight on it. I think he recognizes that he shouldn't be a father - he doesn't really know what it involves.

Good memory! To be fair, I assume she isn't fudging her timesheets...yet. But I assume she will because she did last time. They changed the way they handle timesheet data, so I no longer see the timesheets anymore. Which is just as well, so at least I don't I have to see it and be annoyed. I know it doesn't sound like it, but I really like her as a person. We used to share an office and have gone out to lunch a few times, over the years. But she needs to stay in her lane!

I'm glad you had a nice weekend and that you and H had more of a talk. From what you've said, it sounds like he wants a kid now. But isn't sure "how much". Whether for incompatibility reasons or infertility reasons, that's usually a tough call to make. How far and what huge sacrifices is a person or couple willing to make, to try and have a child. Especially when the outcome can be so uncertain. Whether that's leaving a marriage and "hoping" you find someone else to have a child with and that a child is really something they want, ie your H. Or spending a fortune on things like IVF treatments that may not work.

Not only that, but what comes after .... he has never babysat, never changed a diaper, rarely spends extended time around children younger than high schoolers ... He seems to now be leaning towards not having kids though, but he says he will need to fill that void.

Maybe he needs to be in a mentoring program?

You can still be a great influence on a child and not be a parent.

Hey, that's a great idea! My brother was in the Big Brothers program here, and I bet hubby could do something similar.

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