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You know you should run, not walk, away from this.

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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Dear Prudence,

Recently, my ex’s daughter reached out to me, after 20 years. Her mom and I dated for about three years. When we broke up, we went our separate ways but remained cordial. When her daughter contacted me, I was pleasantly surprised. She’s all grown up now. She’s now in her 30s. As we conversed, she confessed to me that she is attracted to me. My question is, does it make me a creep to want to entertain her interest? Should I just thank her for her flattery, and politely dismiss her flirtation? I’m so conflicted.

—Should I Stay or Should I GO??

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Re: You know you should run, not walk, away from this.

  • banana468banana468 member
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    Randomly, out of the blue your ex GF's daughter is reaching out to tell you that she's attracted to you?? 

    Thank her and block her.  My guess is that this is someone who is NOT going to lead you into a mutually beneficial relationship. 
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  • downtondivadowntondiva member
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    There's nothing healthy about this and pursuing it will not end well. Don't contact her yourself, and if she reaches out again, let her know that you wish her well but won't be taking this any further. Block her if you have to.
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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    I’m assuming her daughter was like a daughter to YOU as well, LW, after 3 years of being together. This is creepy to me. 

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  • STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    Dear god. Block her number and never speak again. 
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  • CasadenaCasadena member
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    Sick.  
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    short+sassy said:
    Gross, dude.  Just no.  You're both creepy.  And someone who reaches out to her mother's ex-lover after 20 years is a train wreck that crashed into a factory of red flags.
    That's essentially what I was thinking.  It would be weird if this was a situation where they met many year later as grown ups but the reach out out of the blue screams 'this woman has issues'. 
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    banana468 said:
    short+sassy said:
    Gross, dude.  Just no.  You're both creepy.  And someone who reaches out to her mother's ex-lover after 20 years is a train wreck that crashed into a factory of red flags.
    That's essentially what I was thinking.  It would be weird if this was a situation where they met many year later as grown ups but the reach out out of the blue screams 'this woman has issues'. 
    That's a good point also.  It's not like they ran into each other, in person, and there was a spark.  Which still would have been creepy, but at least a little less so.

    Instead, it's more like, "Hey, there's a warm body interested in me. Looks just like how hot her mom was 20 years ago.  Yeeeaahhh!  Who cares I was a father-like figure to her back then and she was like my daughter."
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    Yes it makes you a creep. No you shouldn’t respond. 
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    YES, you're creepy and you know it, IDK why you need this validated.

    Block her now, honestly.  There's no need for any further communication.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    No, no, no. 

    Plus also, if you went through with this, I would assume that you'd been inappropriate when she was a teenager and you were her stepdad. Maybe it's not fair, but I'd think it anyway. 
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    short+sassy said:
    Gross, dude.  Just no.  You're both creepy.  And someone who reaches out to her mother's ex-lover after 20 years is a train wreck that crashed into a factory of red flags.
    Ditto PPs. 

    Also I’ll be stealing this phrase. 


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