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Classic: Do the dishes and she'll get over it or you'll break up.

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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My girlfriend, “Jane,” and I moved in together during the pandemic, since her roommate was an essential worker and I lived alone. We figured it wouldn’t last that long (yeah, yeah), and it would be better than being all by ourselves. We’ve fought a bit, but mostly in a way that confirmed we were good for each other, and overall things have been great. Except for this: Jane doesn’t believe that men can or should do any domestic chores. She thinks we should leave it to women to “do it right”…


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Re: Classic: Do the dishes and she'll get over it or you'll break up.

  • STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    Hahahahaahhahahahahhahahahah
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Um....how is she beating you to ALL the things?  You know you could do some of your own things early too.


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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    Leave.  She's treating you like a child.
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    VarunaTT said:
    Leave.  She's treating you like a child.
    This. 

    It’s not about the chores. At least not entirely.  It’s about the fact that she doesn’t listen or respect what you’re saying. 

    Even if she’s been socialized into thinking this is how things are supposed to be- she’s not at all open to hearing your perspective. And in that situation a relationship will never succeed. 
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  • missJeanLouisemissJeanLouise member
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    Prudie's advice was spot on with this one, and goes with @VarunaTT and @charlotte989875 said. You told her your uncomfortable with the situation and she dismissed you. It's not the relationship you think it is.
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    charlotte989875 said:
    VarunaTT said:
    Leave.  She's treating you like a child.
    This. 

    It’s not about the chores. At least not entirely.  It’s about the fact that she doesn’t listen or respect what you’re saying. 

    Even if she’s been socialized into thinking this is how things are supposed to be- she’s not at all open to hearing your perspective. And in that situation a relationship will never succeed. 
    While I know these are the right answers.

    NGL, until it carried over to other things, I'd be ecstatic to hand over household chores and cooking to someone that preferred to do it themselves.  Even if the reason was a rude "because I know I'll do it better than you".
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