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Lump Sums Wanted

knottief6d129e7a038a923knottief6d129e7a038a923 member
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Hi,
I am seeking advice because the wedding I am in the Bride’s Make-up Artist is requiring us to pay in a lump sum and in cash only so we all have to pay the Maid of Honor $125 for make up and then they put our names on the envelope and then they pay the make up artist? Then our tip has to go in an envelope with our name on it but that gets paid by ourselves to the make up artist? Now, apparently the hair stylist wants the same procedure at $90. Is this odd?  When I got married each girl just Venmo’ed the vendor?
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    This is odd. It's weird that anyone is telling bridesmaids they have to pay a vendor at all, but even weirder to have this weird system. 

    I would say no and do my own hair and makeup. That's an outrageous amount to be spending as a bridesmaid anyway. 
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    I'd bow out of those costs.  Regardless of whether or not it's odd I think it's outrageous to pay $215 plus tip for BM hair and makeup.  


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  • knottief6d129e7a038a923knottief6d129e7a038a923 member
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    It’s mandatory to have our make up done and we must get a low bun updo.  Oh and I forgot we all must have a French manicure. 
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    knottief6d129e7a038a923 said:
    It’s mandatory to have our make up done and we must get a low bun updo.  Oh and I forgot we all must have a French manicure. 
    Wow. That's completely ridiculous. I would say no out of principle, because no one owns my hair or nails. Your friend is a massive controlling asshole. 
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    knottief6d129e7a038a923 said:
    It’s mandatory to have our make up done and we must get a low bun updo.  Oh and I forgot we all must have a French manicure. 
    It can't be mandatory.  Taxes are mandatory.

    I would also say no out of principle.  I can't get my hair into a low bun without 154 bobby pin that would make my head metal.  

    I've been meaning to tell you to get your hair cut into a short pixie.  
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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    knottief6d129e7a038a923 said:
    It’s mandatory to have our make up done and we must get a low bun updo.  Oh and I forgot we all must have a French manicure. 

    Nope.  If this bride is adamant you are all cloned, then it is on her dime.  No one can, or should, make demands on your personal appearance. 

    Even if she is planning on taking a picture of the hands of all the BM's, it will never get past a photo album.  Someone needs to say "no" to this "friend".

    I am going to take a **giant** leap and predict your BM "gifts" are matching jewelry and/or a robe to wear for getting ready. 
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    Ridiculous. The bride is completely out of line for demanding hair and makeup professionally done and to make you all pay out of pocket for it. If she's "requiring" it, she needs to cover the costs. 

    Andplusalso, the fact that she's demanding an exact hairdo AND nail color is just so far beyond tacky and rude. Ugh. I'd bow out of this wedding if it were me 
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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    knottief6d129e7a038a923 said:
    Hi,
    I am seeking advice because the wedding I am in the Bride’s Make-up Artist is requiring us to pay in a lump sum and in cash only so we all have to pay the Maid of Honor $125 for make up and then they put our names on the envelope and then they pay the make up artist? Then our tip has to go in an envelope with our name on it but that gets paid by ourselves to the make up artist? Now, apparently the hair stylist wants the same procedure at $90. Is this odd?  When I got married each girl just Venmo’ed the vendor?

    Is this your SIL's wedding where the MOB was expecting you to help pay for the reception?  If you all caved on that, then sadly you have no one to blame but yourselves.  I would be really sad to think you have two people in your life that treat others this way!
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  • knottief6d129e7a038a923knottief6d129e7a038a923 member
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    Yes 😞. I am in the minority with my thoughts and opinions so I post because I feel like I am going crazy. 
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    knottief6d129e7a038a923 said:
    Yes 😞. I am in the minority with my thoughts and opinions so I post because I feel like I am going crazy. 
    Oh man, this sounds like a disaster. I'm sorry. I do remember your post about the reception nonsense. You are not crazy, and the demands being made on you are out of line. Again, can you drop out now? 
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Back out of this.  It's an absolute disaster and either everyone around is completely unreasonable or they're all afraid of this family.

    I'd be pretty clear, "This is my budget and this is what I will spend.  What you're requesting is above and beyond that.  If it's an issue for me to do my own hair and make up then I'm happy to back out if you reimburse me for the expenses I've already incurred." 

    I get that this is family but it's absolutely insane. 
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