Dear Prudence,
Hopefully a low stakes question! I’m happily married. I love my husband and our life together very dearly. I wouldn’t do anything to jeopardize what we have built. We have two school-age children and here’s the weird bit: I have found myself developing a sort of a crush for one of my kid’s teachers, who is definitely younger than me. We have talked and, to me, it seemed obvious there is a sort of connection (think unusual things in common/hobbies, general physical attraction). I have recognized it and backed off being involved with the class, leaving my husband to attend conferences and field trips. But I am still having very erotic dreams about this teacher! It has made me confused and even more awkward around him. I have backed off as much as I could, and I don’t think about him during the day. But jeez, how can I stop the dreams? It’s very jarring and unwanted! I don’t let those thoughts in during sex with my husband, but I still just want to understand the why? Is this okay? Normal? Should I tell my husband?
— Not Hot for Teacher