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Thursday

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edited January 2023 in Wedding Woes
Hope it's going to be a good day for you all.

Mine has started off odd, lol.  As you all know, we had to replace the roof for a duplex that we have under contract.

We contacted three roofers.  One of whom we've done work with in the past.  They are awesome, do great work, and have software that gives you a quote on the spot.  We hired them last week and gave them a 50% deposit.  But, before that, we had two other roofers that we were hoping would give us a better deal.

Everyone knew this was a very urgent matter.  That I am under contract.  A tenant is living there.  And there is literally a hole to the sky in one of the bedrooms (we put a tarp up the next day).

One of other roofers I met at a party for my friend's realtor.  He seemed so great.  He had a good rapport with both myself and my H.  After the party, he was initially really communicative.  But, after he came to see the roof, he never gave us a quote and didn't reply back when we told him we needed to make a decision and requested the quote again.  He saw the roof over two weeks ago.

He just sent me a text message asking for my e-mail address, so he can send me the quote, smh. Dude!  Seriously?  I probably should have just ignored him like he'd done to us for the last couple weeks.  But I couldn't help but rub it in a little.  I texted back that I was sorry, but it was work we had urgently needed done and I'd already signed a contract with another roofing company.  He apologized that he hadn't gotten back to me sooner, he'd gotten busy with the holidays (blah, blah).  I don't know why it's annoying me more that he finally contacted me two weeks later, than if he hadn't contacted me at all.  But it did.

We were surprised about the other roofer also.  He was previously a short-term tenant of ours last year!  He's primarily out of Illinois, but comes down here for the winter.  He kept telling us he would swing by the property to take a look and get us a quote.  Never did!  Oh well.

For some good news, I looked into it and am going through my insurance company, so all I have to pay is the deductible.  But it's a "wind" deductible, so it's over $5K, instead of being the normal $2500 deductible.  From what I was told, this type of a claim shouldn't affect my future insurance rates.
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Re: Thursday

  • Hopefully knowing where you are that shouldn't be an issue.  My boss is currently dealing with the flood vs. wind portions of his insurance after his home was annihilated after Ian in September.  


  • @VarunaTT, I'm so sorry to hear that!  It's awful this is happening to you all, so soon after your father passed away.  I also can't imagine how devastating this is for Ona's husband.
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  • It's been such weird weather.

    16th and 23rd we had so much snow, but between mild weather and rain, we barely have any snow now? Before the 16th we had no snow.

    Anyways yesterday was rain and since it's about freezing, it turned to ice over night. Luckily I remembered to flip my wipers, and running car a bit helped, but I had to climb into the passenger side to open the driver side.

    Likely most of it is melted now because that's just how it's been ...

    MIL tested again, and her test got darker so M & I got paranoid - he tested again, and absolutely nothing. So clearly hers was just ramping up when she tested and got a faded one.

    My mum is retesting tonight, because BK is sleeping over tomorrow.

    I know it seems fairly recent but M & I were just saying how it feels like we haven't had a date night in awhile. Tbh we haven't, every time BK has been somewhere we've had other things to do so it hasn't been relaxing since I lost my voice and we ended up chilling at home.
  • ei34 said:
    I'm sorry for you and your mom's loss @VarunaTT, it's been a rough stretch for you both
    @CharmedPam love the look and also love your tattoo you posted yesterday

    Stbxh picked up a ridiculous money-hungry defense attorney while he did his overnight in jail waiting to be arrained late summer.  Who convinced him to fight the order of protection and the court-mandated anger management.  I was willing to fight hard on the OoP (not that I had to bc it was already given by the District Attorney in early Sept) but didn't care enough to take off from work, pay my lawyer, show up in court to testify against him etc. to fight to make sure he went to anger mgmt.  If you don't want to improve yourself in classes that are free (when it's so hard to pick up a counselor right now to begin with) that's on you. The DA had told me that if I showed up in court I could easily make sure he took the anger mgmt but it wasn't worth it. (Again, I would've went to court to fight on the OoP being in place, but was told with all my evidence that wouldn't be removed.)  The case was officially closed on Friday, and I received an updated OoP dated 12/30/23...my original was good through 9/4/23, but I ended up with an extension, woohoo.  Sucks to suck stbxh. 
    @ei34 am I reading this correctly that stbxh has a money hungry atty who is fighting these orders but through whatever his atty did the extension is now through the end of next year and basically ends on the last Saturday of this year but anger mgmt isn't required? 

    What a roller coaster for you guys.  This means that it should remain in place after the divorce is theoretically finalized right?

    Did I read that he was supposed to have the kids but ultimately didn't? 
  • Finally back to work! Thankfully so far it’s a quiet week and I don’t have much on my calendar because I am dragging. Waking up at 4 from jet lag is brutal. Totally worth it though the trip was amazing. Exceeded my very high expectations and I think next week once I’m over the jet lag I will feel very refreshed. 
  • I’m so sorry for your loss @VarunaTT

    Once again StbXH out does himself with his assholery @ei34. I’m glad the OoP got extended though at least. 

    @charmedpam love the outfit! 

    @charlotte989875 I hate shenanigans like that. 

    It’s raining here in what is being called a “Bomb Cyclone.” The equivalent of a category 3 hurricane up north. Here it’s just a lot more rain than usual. My normal way to work was already getting flooded so I’m hoping my alternate route is okay. It was already bad enough that I know I won’t be able to leave through the back exit at work. This is the first time I’ve missed driving our giant truck in awhile. The flooding and a sedan makes me nervous. 

    Otherwise SSDD. Got into a little spat yesterday with a coworker that had me in a funk. I just cannot with the rudeness and audacity. My brother is alive after a suicide attempt and leaving the house in a huff three days ago. He was missing and no one could find him. He doesn’t have a phone either so no way to track him. But he showed up in another huff last night and got a bunch of his stuff so I guess it’s okay for now. The rollercoaster is just too much. 


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  • @VarunaTT I'm so sorry for your loss!  What a rough start to the year, and after everything from last year as well.

    @MissKittyDanger I hope all the sickness clears up soon!  

    @CharmedPam That all looks amazing!  I love the nails.

    Work is slower right now, which is nice that I can catch up on stuff.  But it looks like it might be a crazy year, we will see.  I will take this slower pace while I can .... and I'm on vacation in two weeks again, so that will be awesome.

  • @levioosa, I'm sorry to hear about your brother and coworker.  I hope things get smoother and calmer for you.  Good luck with the roads later and stay safe.
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  • @levioosa oh wow, another suicide attempt.  I’m so sorry to hear that.  Roller coaster is right :(
    @ei34, glad it was extended as well.  He’s a piece of work…

  • @levioosa ugh, I'm so sorry.  I feel so bad for your parents and for you.  Sending peace to you guys
    @banana468 thankfully the kids/my having full custody/our visitation schedule wasn't part of this.  I'd move mountains to maintain full physical and legal custody.  I visited our local precinct in August to report some abuse and obtain paperwork for the OoP.  He turned himself in in early Sept.  Had the option to represent himself or use a court-appointed atty.  The detective from the precinct had already spoken with the judge on my behalf and stressed I just wanted the OoP, no criminal charges pressed.  The atty he chose encouraged him to fight both the OoP/cease of harassment as well as the anger mgmt classes.  I was assured by the DA that the OoP wouldn't be taken away, which was all I cared about.  I can visit family court and renew the OoP each year, separate from the divorce.  I was going to have to have it renewed late Aug/early Sept (one of my busiest times of year, as a teacher, and a tough time to take time off) but with the new date I can go during my week off between Christmas-New Year.
  • Oh @levioosa I’m sorry. The roller coaster is so much. 
  • I’m sorry @VarunaTT; what a hard year for you and your mom. 
  • I'm so sorry @VarunaTT - it's a lot of loss for you and your mom in a short time.

    @ei34 - your STBXH is a piece of work.  So glad the OoP was extended and the timing works out better for you to renew.

    @levioosa - I'm sorry.
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