Dear Prudence,
I’m struggling with a work situation and hoping for your objective perspective and direction. My teammates keep in touch throughout the workday using an instant message app, and there’s several chats on the go. More often than I like, though, it seems the chats veer off into more personal conversations that can be inappropriate. I can’t talk about this with my manager as they are a main part of the problem. They and a few of my colleagues will often share updates and photos about their personal life. I am not really comfortable with this. The fine line between work and personal life is being erased. This leads me to my main point and why I’m reaching out for advice.
Oftentimes, my manager shockingly sends selfies posing in their gym clothes. I’m quite taken aback that this person thinks it’s okay to share these pictures. In my opinion, this is simply inappropriate to do in a workplace with your staff. I don’t know how my colleagues feel as I am reluctant to discuss it with them. I have noticed a couple of them will respond with oohs and aahs which in turn probably promotes the behavior. I am kind of disgusted, and I don’t respond to these posts and just try to ignore them and pray the topic gets changed. Am I being too sensitive? Should I just let it go and ignore it as I have been, or do you recommend reaching out to HR or our director? I don’t want to get my manager fired, but I feel strongly that this behavior is unacceptable and some rules should be applied.
— Disgusted at Work