Dear Prudence,
Over the past few years, my friend has acted in ways that I find annoying, but I didn’t say anything in the moment because I didn’t want to be rude or a bad friend. For example, she always said no to things I wanted to do or go to but then years later, she said she wanted to. She was in a situationship with her FWB and it became the typical pattern of her coming to me asking for the same advice and never listening. My mom and I have invited her to come with us to my home country, and she made it clear she wasn’t interested and even talked sh*t about my country, but then when I went and didn’t invite her, she invited herself to the next trip only to say she’d rather go to another country. She’s told her mom things I’ve told her then comes back with her mom’s input and unsolicited advice.
There’s been more situations like these, and I now find her extremely annoying. I don’t trust her to tell her anything, I have no desire to go anywhere with her or do anything she wants. I am now questioning the point of this friendship; I don’t have the same patience or care for it as I used to. Am I overreacting? Are my feelings valid? Should I forget everything and start over and speak up when things happen? I don’t know what to do anymore.
— Annoyed and Over It