Wives are just in the wrong today.

Re: Wives are just in the wrong today.

• banana468 member

  

  May 2023

  The ethics tell me you were a fool for not putting this into a prenup which makes it clear that the property that was left to you needs to stay with the offspring of  your wife. 
  
  Now you need to be clear to the current wife that this is how it's going to be and her options are to accept the terms of the property and stay married or not accept them and get divorced. 

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• VarunaTT member

  

  May 2023

  I think, if LW is going to sell them and he's taking some of the profits (so dividing by 4) his fourth should be shared between him and his new family.  But if he's selling and giving all of the profits to the previous spouse's children (dividing by 3), then that's how that should be and current spouse/stepchild have nothing to do with it.

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  May 2023

  VarunaTT said:

  I think, if LW is going to sell them and he's taking some of the profits (so dividing by 4) his fourth should be shared between him and his new family.  But if he's selling and giving all of the profits to the previous spouse's children (dividing by 3), then that's how that should be and current spouse/stepchild have nothing to do with it.

  I agree with this. If he’s keeping some money then it should be shared money with his existing family. If he’s not keeping any and giving it all to his kids then it should go to the three. 

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• short+sassy member

  

  May 2023

  VarunaTT said:

  I think, if LW is going to sell them and he's taking some of the profits (so dividing by 4) his fourth should be shared between him and his new family.  But if he's selling and giving all of the profits to the previous spouse's children (dividing by 3), then that's how that should be and current spouse/stepchild have nothing to do with it.

  So wise!
  
  I have a crazy, horror story from my own family on something like this.
  
  My grandfather's mother died giving birth to her 4th child.  My grandfather and all his brothers were still young.  His father married another woman about a year later and that woman had one daughter.  He did not have any children with his new wife.
  
  Unfortunately, my great-grandfather passed away when his kids were teens.  The stepmother was super resentful she "got stuck" raising her stepchildren.  Which I can kind of understand, but she was mean to them growing up.
  
  The house everyone lived in had belonged to my great-grandmother. Everyone assumed my great-grandfather had inherited the house from his wife when she died.  And that his new wife inherited the house from him, when he died.
  
  But none of that was true.  My great-grandmother had left the house to ONLY her children.
  
  The only person who knew the truth...and kept it secret for decades...was the stepmother.
  
  At one point, the only person living in this house with his family was one of my great-uncles.  Because he thought his stepmother owned the house, he'd been paying her rent for 20+ years!!!!
  
  I was never told why.  But something came up where he needed information about the house and he went to the county courthouse to look up the records.  He was shocked to find that only he and his brothers owned the house.  The jig was up for the stepmother.
  

  

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• climbingsingle member

  

  May 2023

  short+sassy said:

  VarunaTT said:

  I think, if LW is going to sell them and he's taking some of the profits (so dividing by 4) his fourth should be shared between him and his new family.  But if he's selling and giving all of the profits to the previous spouse's children (dividing by 3), then that's how that should be and current spouse/stepchild have nothing to do with it.

  So wise!
  
  I have a crazy, horror story from my own family on something like this.
  
  My grandfather's mother died giving birth to her 4th child.  My grandfather and all his brothers were still young.  His father married another woman about a year later and that woman had one daughter.  He did not have any children with his new wife.
  
  Unfortunately, my great-grandfather passed away when his kids were teens.  The stepmother was super resentful she "got stuck" raising her stepchildren.  Which I can kind of understand, but she was mean to them growing up.
  
  The house everyone lived in had belonged to my great-grandmother. Everyone assumed my great-grandfather had inherited the house from his wife when she died.  And that his new wife inherited the house from him, when he died.
  
  But none of that was true.  My great-grandmother had left the house to ONLY her children.
  
  The only person who knew the truth...and kept it secret for decades...was the stepmother.
  
  At one point, the only person living in this house with his family was one of my great-uncles.  Because he thought his stepmother owned the house, he'd been paying her rent for 20+ years!!!!
  
  I was never told why.  But something came up where he needed information about the house and he went to the county courthouse to look up the records.  He was shocked to find that only he and his brothers owned the house.  The jig was up for the stepmother.
  

  That is wild! 

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• VarunaTT member

  

  May 2023

  short+sassy said:

  VarunaTT said:

  I think, if LW is going to sell them and he's taking some of the profits (so dividing by 4) his fourth should be shared between him and his new family.  But if he's selling and giving all of the profits to the previous spouse's children (dividing by 3), then that's how that should be and current spouse/stepchild have nothing to do with it.

  So wise!
  
  I have a crazy, horror story from my own family on something like this.
  
  My grandfather's mother died giving birth to her 4th child.  My grandfather and all his brothers were still young.  His father married another woman about a year later and that woman had one daughter.  He did not have any children with his new wife.
  
  Unfortunately, my great-grandfather passed away when his kids were teens.  The stepmother was super resentful she "got stuck" raising her stepchildren.  Which I can kind of understand, but she was mean to them growing up.
  
  The house everyone lived in had belonged to my great-grandmother. Everyone assumed my great-grandfather had inherited the house from his wife when she died.  And that his new wife inherited the house from him, when he died.
  
  But none of that was true.  My great-grandmother had left the house to ONLY her children.
  
  The only person who knew the truth...and kept it secret for decades...was the stepmother.
  
  At one point, the only person living in this house with his family was one of my great-uncles.  Because he thought his stepmother owned the house, he'd been paying her rent for 20+ years!!!!
  
  I was never told why.  But something came up where he needed information about the house and he went to the county courthouse to look up the records.  He was shocked to find that only he and his brothers owned the house.  The jig was up for the stepmother.
  

  Whoa!  

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