Stepson in my ceremony?

Re: Stepson in my ceremony?

• charlotte989875 member

  

  October 2022

  foreverthefarmers said:

  I'm looking for advice on how to include my stepson in our wedding ceremony next year. He will be 12 years old and I want to make sure he feels special and included. Our wedding is out of state so at first, he didn't want to come (since we're not having kids at our wedding). Now he changed his mind and wants to come!  
  
  The issue I'm having is he is too old to be a ring bearer and we already have our bridesmaids and groomsmen picked out. Is there a way he can maybe walk with my fiancé and I after we've been pronounced husband and wife? Could he maybe walk my fiancé's mother down the aisle after the ceremony is over?
  
  Looking forward to hearing your opinions!
  

  Are you having any readings at the ceremony he would want to do? He could definitely walk down the aisle with you or his grandmother. Can your FI talk to him about what he’d like to do?

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• Jen4948 member

  

  October 2022

  He can have a boutonniere, and if he's okay with walking down the aisle, I would just have him as a groomsman or even a bridesman. The numbers don't have to match.
  
  Or he could do a reading. 
  
  Or he could just take a special photo with you and his dad, or do a special dance with you.
  
  I would talk with him and his dad.

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  October 2022

  Why can't he be a groomsman? He would understand that he's been asked later than the others since he originally wasn't planning to attend. 

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• ILoveBeachMusic member

  

  October 2022

  I agree that having him as a groomsman is a great idea along with walking his grandmother down the aisle.

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• l_e_t_u_t_t_i member

  

  May 2023

  Hello,

  Including your stepson in your wedding ceremony is a wonderful way to make him feel special and involved. While he may be too old to be a traditional ring bearer, there are several meaningful roles he can play. Here are a couple of suggestions:

  1. Junior Groomsman: You can consider assigning him the role of a junior groomsman. He can walk down the aisle with the groomsmen or stand alongside them during the ceremony.

  2. Usher: Another option is to have him serve as an usher. He can assist guests in finding their seats before the ceremony begins or distribute programs or other items.

  3. Special Reading: You could also involve him by having him do a special reading or recite a meaningful passage during the ceremony.

  4. Family Escort: As you mentioned, he could walk your fiancé's mother down the aisle or escort her to her seat after the ceremony, which would be a lovely gesture.

  Remember to have a conversation with your stepson to understand his preferences and what role he would feel most comfortable and excited about. It's important to make him a part of the decision-making process and ensure that he knows how much his presence means to both of you.

  Congratulations on your upcoming wedding, and I hope you have a beautiful celebration!

  
  
  
  

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