Wedding Woes

Friyay!

And happy 3 day weekend to those of us who have one.

I'm really exhausted.  IDK why, it just feels like everything is just really difficult lately.  I'm glad it's a 3 day weekend and I don't have any plans

I did hear back from my doctor.  My one concern is not a problem after all.  I will have to have colonscopys more than the average bear, but nothing to worry about.  That was a relief.  I'll have to wait for the letter from teh specialist to know how often.  And then I guess I'll set a reminder for that year on my Google calendar?  There's no way I'm going to remember something like "every 5-7 years".

Anyone doing anything fun?

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  • Enjoy your long plan-free weekend Varuna!

    My parents are coming in today so i need to grocery shop this afternoon for a few things. H and I are taking the train into the city tomorrow mid-day and heading to the art museum for a special Dali exhibit, then heading up toward Wrigley to bar hop for a couple hours before the game! We have a hotel room for the night and are looking forward to attempting to sleep in on Sunday. He seems to be in a much better mood this morning so hopefully that keeps up :) Trying to work out a time to briefly see some Colorado friends that are in the area for the weekend too. Should be a fun time!

    I'm going to a yoga class in a bit and have one more thing i'm trying to crank out before so my afternoon is very light! I also underestimated how annoying corporate hierarchy is - this is the first time i've worked in a very vertical org and it's such a hold-up to productivity when every chart and slide and data set has to be run by 5 ppl before it gets to the person who actually requested it. It's exhausting. 
  • I need to cross my fingers and hope I can get my beach pass.  The car is registered so hopefully they don't give me a fuss even though I can't reprint it. 

    Tonight is book club and then this weekend I want to plant all day tomorrow so Sunday we're ready for the Memorial Day stuff and maybe a boat ride. 

    We're still scratching our heads on MIL and FIL.  It's not that moving is a bad idea but they have NO place to move to!  And our town has slim pickings that are in their range.  It's making DH nervous and I am trying to figure out how to navigate supporting him. 
  • @VarunaTT glad you got good news from your doc! 

    No real firm plans for the weekend. My office is closing at 2pm today (thank god) and I'm going to relax and drink on the deck when I get home. 
    Tomorrow we'll probably open the pool. I think we have a few friends coming over Sunday evening. That's about it. 
  • I’m glad you got good news! @VarunaTT. I totally have a reminder for my IUD in my phone to alert me when it’s due. At first I was like “how could I forget the date this foreign object was placed in my body?” Two-three years later though I cannot for the life of me remember when it expires. 

    Thinking of you @charlotte989875. I hope everything is okay. 

    Making it through the last day of work. The in-laws and my parents are coming over this Sunday for a BBQ. SIL A and her H are planning on coming, but they’ve been doing a lot of family social events after the loss so I’m not counting on it. Although I think they’ll probably want to hang out and just be around people (us) without having to be “on.” Either way I’m more concerned with mental health and welll being so I’m just playing things by ear. If they don’t come over we’ll have a nice catch up with the parents and then H and I will have some time to relax together. 


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  • That’s good to hear @VarunaTT
    @Casadena that sounds like fun!!!

    i’m trying to get my lawn/hedge trimmings done today while the weather is still mild.  So far I did my front lawn and hedges and then after lunch, back yard and clean up.  
    I was on “standby” yesterday because my SIL has been rushed to the hospital for surgery. My brother wanted to go, but would need help with the kids and this time my parents couldn’t go because of my Dad’s eye surgery he was having.  So I said I would take a day off and head over to help the other grandma with the kids (she can’t take care of 4 alone!) and he told me, he’d tell me if he needed me by this morning. In the meantime I’m holding off on buying a tour ticket for tomorrow because it’s non refundable.  My brother did NOT get back to me (this is typical) and I found out SIL and her mother were going to the hospital and bro was staying home with the kids.  I mean, it would have been nice to know this morning and I wouldn’t have known if I was needed or not unless my mom asked what was going on in a group text this morning. 
    Everyone gives him the benefit of the doubt on communication because we all know he has A LOT on his plate, but he’s always been like this.

  • @VarunaTT, So glad to hear your concern isn't anything to worry about.  My "every 5 years" medical thing I need to remember is getting the pneumonia vaccine.  And then a tetanus shot is every 10.  I have purposely done it so every year that ends in "0" or "5" is pneumonia and every year that ends in "0" is tetanus.

    @Casadena, I hope you all have a great time in Chicago!  I love that city.

    @banana468, No worries.  I'm sure your MIL and FIL can just move in with you all if they find themselves temporarily without a place ;).  Totally kidding.  At least I hope so, for your all's sake.

    In a worse case scenario, they should look at a website like Furnished Finder or I've heard AirBnB has/is adding a section for longer term, short term stays.  And then put most of their belongings/furniture in storage.  Hopefully they will also be doing a LOT of selling/purging, because I assume they are downsizing.  I realize they wouldn't need a furnished rental.  But those are the kind of places designed for people to rent somewhere on a temporary, flexible basis.  The order they are going in makes it very likely they will sell their house before they have another one.

    If they have the finances to do it, their life will be a lot easier if they can buy their next house first.  But I know that is a lot easier said than done.  Their own house will also show better.  Strategically leave some furniture for staging, but all the rest of their stuff could already be moved to their new home.


    Unfortunately, this is not a 3-day weekend for me.  My work "trades" Memorial Day for having Mardi Gras off.

    I did get some good news.  For those who don't remember, the roof got partially ripped off after a tornado on one of my rental properties that I have since sold.  The insurance company initially gave me fair pay off for a new roof.  BUT I also needed the decking replaced...which was an additional $10K!...and they hadn't included that, so I disputed the claim.

    This morning, I got the news that they agreed with me and I won!  Other than them taking a long time (about 3 months) to process my dispute, it actually went smoothly.  I'd already sent them the paid roofing invoice.  They finally got back to me on Wednesday and asked for some of the damage pictures that had the old decking in it.  I sent that to them yesterday.  Got the happy e-mail today.  I am so thankful they didn't hassle me about it!  I have too much on my plate to be battling with an insurance company.
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  • @short+sassy we live in a town with construction that's either super old (like 1700s - those are few at this point), 1950s/60s/70s and then McMansions.   My home is a late 60s California split.  MIL and FIL are selling from a 55+ community and there is ONE house on the market now that fits what they think they want but I'm still skeptical because they have separate bedrooms and MIL hasn't lived without a MBR suite in well over 20 years.  To add to it, the last time they moved in 2018 MIL had a breakdown.  She was not packed and on moving day DH took the day off and said they were having to move the contents of kitchen drawers to 30 gallon trash bags because she didn't pack them.  THen it took her months to unpack.  If she has too much on her plate she doesn't do well and I'm frustrated that FIL isn't taking that into account.  

    IF MIL and FIL can't find anything there may be rental options.  But the options are beach rentals.  So they would need to ideally not move into one of them until after Labor Day because right now the rent for 1 week is the same as the rent for an academic month.

    And all of this is still under the premise that if they sell and rent that they'll come out ahead financially - and I think that's a dubious proposal.
  • Congratulations on the good news @VarunaTT

    Is hiring movers an option @banana468 sound like they could use it 

    I am so tired. I went to the Dr. this morning because I felt like I was getting an ear infection and didn't want to deal with that while on vacation. It is so good my ear hurt because I also have strep. Guess who else has strep. Everyone else in the house, including the baby. So now we are all on antibiotics, yay. DH was the only one with symptoms (besides my ear) but he had a 100* fever all day. It finally broke around dinner. 

    Thinking of you today @charlotte989875 hope you are doing okay.

  • Congratulations on the good news @VarunaTT

    Is hiring movers an option @banana468 sound like they could use it 

    I am so tired. I went to the Dr. this morning because I felt like I was getting an ear infection and didn't want to deal with that while on vacation. It is so good my ear hurt because I also have strep. Guess who else has strep. Everyone else in the house, including the baby. So now we are all on antibiotics, yay. DH was the only one with symptoms (besides my ear) but he had a 100* fever all day. It finally broke around dinner. 

    Thinking of you today @charlotte989875 hope you are doing okay.

    They won't hire packers.  I do think they should hire movers.  I already stressed to DH that he has both the limited time but also of the group of people FIL knows DH is the most fit and youngest and it's not fair to ask him to do this while they're likely profiting in the thousands.  It doesn't mean DH won't help on that.

    But the real issue is how well they do when moving, that they think a new place will be a major savings and....there is no other place! 
  • Thanks everyone! I’m doing okay. Nothing is getting worse so I’m just resting and waiting to make sure that it stays that way. The fatigue hit me hard this week so I’ve been taking all the naps! 

    SITB That's a good sign! Hope everything continues well. FX
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