Dear Prudence,
Is it normal to have a crush on someone who isn’t your long-term boyfriend? After moving back to our hometown, we’ve recently started hanging out more with my partner of seven year’s large friend group, and I have found myself lightly crushing on one of his friends. He’s great at conversation, and we regularly chat—it’s all friendly, and honestly, it’s just nice to get to know someone new and have someone show interest in getting to know more about me too. My relationship is it for me (he’s proposed and we’ll be getting married soon), and I always remind myself that a crush is a lack of information (i.e. I know this guy and I would never actually mesh in real life), but that doesn’t seem to cancel out the nervousness I still feel when around said friend. Does it go away with time? Should I just redirect my newfound flirtatious energy into my relationship?