Dear Prudence,
About eight years ago, a close friend ghosted me. This was after I graduated high school. I messaged her multiple times, over a period of five months, to ask her what I had done wrong. Each time, she ignored me. After that, I decided to delete her from social media because if she didn’t want to answer my messages, she didn’t deserve to know what was going on in my life. Recently, I’ve thought about her and decided that I really needed closure on what happened. I messaged her a few times on Instagram (her account is public) and each time got no response. Fed up, I decided to call her on her cell phone. I started the call aggressively and came across as slightly unhinged. She answered and was shocked to hear from me. Turns out, she hadn’t gotten my messages nor could she remember why she stopped talking to me. All she could offer was that she had opinions on how she used to be but that it was a long time ago and she didn’t remember. I’m annoyed that I didn’t get closure, but also embarrassed that I came across as extremely petty and immature to someone who moved on. I sent her a text apologizing and trying to offer context for my behavior but received no response. How do I move on from this?
—Criminally Embarrassed