Dear Prudence,
I’m a 32-year-old near-daily pot smoker. I think it improves my life. I’m gainfully employed, have great friendships and relationships, am active in my community, and enjoy my hobbies and artistic pursuits—mostly while stoned. I don’t drink or do any other drugs; cannabis seems different to me. My problem is that I think that my partner of seven years wants me to cut back, like a lot. I know this amount of cannabis consumption won’t last forever, that I’ll need to quit when I start trying to get pregnant soonish, etc. But right now, I like it! My partner won’t actually tell me he doesn’t like it, he’ll admit that it helps with my anxiety, and if I ask him directly, “Do you want me to stop?” he waffles and avoids giving a straight answer. But he will do addiction checklists to me and make comments I consider passive-aggressive. I know he cares about my health and well-being, but he’s making me feel crazy about something that I don’t actually feel conflicted about. I’m second-guessing myself and also sneaking around, which doesn’t feel great. What should I do?
—Functional Adult Stoner