Neither my fiance nor I enjoy dancing. I do think weddings are about hospitality and thinking of guests, but as the bride and groom, I also anticipate that if we offer dancing, there will be a lot of attempted coaxing to get us on the dance floor, etc. So: I'm just not interested. I recognize some people may leave early if there's no dancing, and that's fine.
However, I really haven't been to any weddings that don't include dancing, so I'm having trouble envisioning what that looks like.
We've only just begun the planning process, so we're pretty much open to whatever. It will likely be a fairly small gathering (30-50 people).
Re: Tell me about the weddings you've been to that did not include dancing, please.
I, for one, would love to go to a smallish wedding that was a fancy dinner party and then a bit of socializing after. For something more casual, I could see an outdoor event with bonfire after dinner.
One unexpected bonus in this is that your alcohol bill will probably be lower. I debated for weeks about whether to pay the flat rate per guest for my daughter's bar but then went with the per drink rate instead. I was kind of expecting a super high bill, because I didn't know how much people would drink, but we definitely saved money paying by the drink. I did tip on the higher flat rate, but even then, it was less than expected.
Also, for a couple of them, they did do a simple "first dance" using their own computer/speaker in sort of the transition time between dinner/dessert being served which was appreciated. They also had a couple decks of cards, glow necklaces, snacks, simple games, etc. available..