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Why are you asking about this on her behalf?

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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Dear Prudence,

My 26-year-old granddaughter Mia’s boyfriend of three years, Tim, told her a week ago that he was considering entering the priesthood. She was shocked and broke up with him. A few days later, he asked to meet her and told her he loved her and had changed his mind. She does not know whether to give the relationship another chance. Tim is a good guy and they were happy together. They were planning to become engaged before the end of the year. What should she do?

—Engagement on Hold

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Re: Why are you asking about this on her behalf?

  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    Therapy on this one. Mia needs to know where he really stands and if his commitment is to her or the church and she has every right to get answers now. 

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  • STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    She should love her life! Without her grandmother’s help! If she feels like a dude who is interested in being a priest isn’t for her, she shouldn’t date him. Seems like she already solved this problem. 
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    STARMOON44 said:
    She should love her life! Without her grandmother’s help! If she feels like a dude who is interested in being a priest isn’t for her, she shouldn’t date him. Seems like she already solved this problem. 
    Dear Prudie,
    I was dating a nice guy who couldn't figure out what his calling was, told me that he wanted to join the priesthood and I decided enough was enough so I broke up with him.  Now my grandmother is inserting herself in my love life thinking that some guy who can't figure out what he wants to be is somehow going to be fantastic because he thought of being a priest but she's up in my business and it's frustrating.  How can I tell her that I'm 26 and there's a lot of fish in the sea?

    Signed,
    WE NEVER WERE ENGAGED!
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  • flantasticflantastic member
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    edited October 2023
    Oh as a person who works with a lot of priests and sees a number of seminarians, I know the advice is that you can't be doing both.

    If you're thinking about becoming a priest, think about that. Consider that entirely apart from any relationship. Women are not tools for your discernment. You can't make them compete against something else to show that they're a better life than you'd have as a priest, just like you can't date two women simultaneously to figure out for yourself which is better for you. Nope.

    Grandma needs to not involve herself, but Mia is probably wise to say "yeah enough is enough here, you've got work to do without me."

    edit for clarity
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  • downtondivadowntondiva member
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    If I were in Mia's shoes, the fact Time could change his mind that quickly about something that huge would set off alarms for me. Personally, I wouldn't ever feel quite sure of where I stood with him and wouldn't want to get back together. 

    That said, it's weird that her grandmother is butting in to this so much. 
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