Dear Prudence,
My husband died while we were separated. We were married for 15 years and it was a long haul, both good and bad. My counselor recommended not to make any major life changes for at least a year. Well, it has been a year and I am tired of all the lingering ghosts. I want a fresh start. The problem is his family’s home going back four generations. The house has a lot of repairs I don’t have the heart to deal with, but the land is worth a lot. His parents died three years earlier and we bought out his siblings thinking we could make a fresh start in the country. But we brought all our baggage with us instead.
All of my in-laws are aghast at the thought of me selling the place. They have put me through the emotional ringer but only one has made a serious offer to buy back the property and it was laughably low. I offered for them to come and get whatever heirlooms they wanted (they took most of them already after the death of their parents) but it wasn’t enough. What stings is that my sister-in-law accuses me of being a vulture. She claimed that I knew the property would be more valuable in the future and faked my relationship with her brother so I could cash in. My husband wasn’t in good health at the time. I did look at recent nearby developments when we first considered moving here. It wasn’t a solid bet but the area was growing and that fact did factor in my agreeing to this. I am just heartsick here. Help!
—Moving On