Dear Prudence,
My male co-worker took the minutes at a recent team meeting. He asked if we wanted them emailed out or simply saved to the team site. Despite everyone saying it could just go to the team page, he announced that he would send it around—just for ME. He called me scatterbrained and told everyone (including our manager and the rest of the team) that I’d miss the deadlines if the notes weren’t emailed out.
I’m insulted both professionally and personally. Professionally, because my task for the upcoming deadline was to create all the marketing info for the event, which I completed while sitting in the meeting. I attended the meeting after doing 90 percent of the work on another project we share. Personally, because in addition to being my cubicle mate, he’s a family friend—my kids consider him to be an uncle. He was fully aware that before the meeting, my husband had been sick for days, leaving me to do all the parenting of two toddlers solo.
How do I address this? I got sick the next day and have not seen him to discuss it. He’s texted me to apologize for the “riff” he somehow caused, and has asked his wife (one of my best friends) to apologize on his behalf. I have no desire to talk to him anytime soon.
—Too Tired for This Shit