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In a major funk today. Weather is crappy and was up for awhile in the middle of the night with kiddos. I wish i was sleeping!
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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    It's a "hurry up and wait" day at work.  I have two urgent things to do, but need info from other people before I can start.

    My H and I had our CTJ talk last night about him getting more work done to prepare our house and another rental house we have to get them ready for sale.  He looked so sad and defeated, that I softened my words a little.  Hopefully I won't regret that.  I think he was sad because he knows what I said is true.  He's been failing me and us.  He promised to start putting in at least 6 hours/day of work.  We'll see.  We also went over the repair checklist for our own house.

    I also talked to him about how scared I am to uproot our lives and move.  There are so many unknown, major factors.  But all of this prolonging it is causing me so much more stress.  That for my own mental health, we need to pull the band aid off.  I NEED these houses to be ready for sale so we can start making real plans for a definite move date and lining up a rental apartment/house to move to.  I also acknowledged my own failings in that department, like I still have so much more stuff to go through.

    Initially, we are going to keep the majority of our belongings packed and stored in a pod until we buy our next house.  I only want to move the most necessary items into our temporary rental home.  I think we can start doing some of that kind of packing!  He also thought that was a good idea.  I think that would also help us at least emotionally feel more prepared.  Like just having the house as cleaned out as possible with a few stacks of boxes/totes against a wall.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    Good morning!  Everyday this week has ended up feeling like a Monday.  Fingers crossed today stays feeling like Thursday all day.   

    Work has been nuts.  I have two new people and also a bunch of processes/reporting are being changed up.  

    SSDD otherwise.  No new TV to report, LOL.  But Top Chef is back next week and it's Wisconsin.  I can't wait to see all the cheese.  

    Prudie coming up!! 
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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    Ugh I was up at 3:30 again and couldn’t go back to sleep! @Casadena was it the storms that kept you up? They were loud with a capacity L. 
    @short+sassy, to get the fire under the butt a “do you want out of here? Speed it up buddy!”

    My friend wore a beautiful dress one day on an art institute day.  It was black with horses and skeletons and flowers but the skeletons were kinda hidden.  She said “nordstroms for $100 something”.  So I went.  It was $219.  And from what I read, they rarely have sales. That’s a lot for me and for a dress I would rarely get use of. It was perfect for that day. I kept on thinking about it and almost pulled the trigger.  The price has always held me back. 
    Then I get an ad pop up for a site called Disturbia and they have patterns really similar to that. Even in a skirt.  For $60! So I think that’s going to satisfy my desire for a gothicy dress/skirt. It comes from the UK so I hope it’s quick.  

    Edit; also happy Pi Day! I have to check out all the pizza deals near me.  Even though my own adult voice in my head is going “you have food at home!”

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  • CasadenaCasadena member
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    CharmedPam said:
    Ugh I was up at 3:30 again and couldn’t go back to sleep! @Casadena was it the storms that kept you up? They were loud with a capacity L. 
    @short+sassy, to get the fire under the butt a “do you want out of here? Speed it up buddy!”

    My friend wore a beautiful dress one day on an art institute day.  It was black with horses and skeletons and flowers but the skeletons were kinda hidden.  She said “nordstroms for $100 something”.  So I went.  It was $219.  And from what I read, they rarely have sales. That’s a lot for me and for a dress I would rarely get use of. It was perfect for that day. I kept on thinking about it and almost pulled the trigger.  The price has always held me back. 
    Then I get an ad pop up for a site called Disturbia and they have patterns really similar to that. Even in a skirt.  For $60! So I think that’s going to satisfy my desire for a gothicy dress/skirt. It comes from the UK so I hope it’s quick.  
    Haha, surprisingly no! N peed through his jammies bc he was not "situated" correctly in his diaper. Then he was crying bc it was uncomfy and woke up G. So getting them both settled and back to bed took awhile. G climbed in with me around 4:30 bc of thunder I think. I was so tired i just said yes and didn't ask any questions, lol. 
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  • MissKittyDangerMissKittyDanger member
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    @Casadena noooo BK sometimes wakes up with nightmare and even if I crash quick after, it interrupts sleep. :( hopefully everyone is ok now

    @short+sassy I'm sure your H was appreciative of tone swap, but I swear some CTJ chats are sooo necessary. Like ok bruh, what's the fkn plan!?

    @CharmedPam you may have food at home, but do you wanna treat yo self on Pi day!?
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    *hugs* @short+sassy

    Blaze Pizza has a Pi Day special, but then you also have to brave the crowds. 

    I am just in a gigantic funk. H called his sister last night who maintains that she didn't really do anything wrong on my birthday and that the night was my fault. I'm really hurt and I just feel really disrespected. I knew our friendship was seriously struggling, especially since last September, but I still feel blindsided. I wrote a really long letter that I'm debating sending because it's one of those "once you ring a bell you can't unring it" situations. Granted we've talked about all of the things in the letter before, but there's a different feeling to written things and given the lack of accountability I don't know if it will mean anything to her or if it will just piss her off more. If anything sending it may be more for me than anything. It's upsetting that our circle was already small but now it's getting even smaller. Sure we might hang out occasionally in the future, but this is just confirming what I've been trying to ignore for a couple years. H and I have grown so much, and they just...haven't. And I'm not perfect by any means, but the constant attacking and projection of their issues onto me is frustrating and hurtful. I'm kind of grieving the loss of a friendship, the loss of the (albeit very selfish and limited) support system, and for all of the little things. We are either going to cancel our trip in April or I think we'll go but just do our own thing. Unfortunately the date of our trip doesn't line up with an Alaskan Cruise we'd like to go on or I would just go ahead and book that. 

    Otherwise it's super windy here today. I am still getting used to DST. The last two years it absolutely knocked me down for a month straight. Just keep the same hours, I beg of you. H has his finals this week and has been studying for those. I'm so glad he's on break next week. 


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  • MissKittyDangerMissKittyDanger member
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    I'm off tomorrow with BK. I told her we have to do groceries, but afterwards we can do a little spa day and watch the Taylor Swift Eras tour on disney + :) 
    I told her this and she's like "you make such fun plans mommy" YOU STOP THAT I WILL CRY CHILD!!

    Yesterday was my mum's bday, but because we're all busy - M, BK and I are going to my mum's place for dinner on Friday

    Saturday we're seeing alpacas! M may have to work {we know Friday} so my mum said she'll sub in because I already bought tix.

    Sunday is st paddy's day dinner at il's and possibly playdate with BK's friend again :) unsure. If it's not now, we do have another coming because his bday is in a few weeks and they're doing something small that the mom has said BK is invited to.
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    levioosa said:
    *hugs* @short+sassy

    Blaze Pizza has a Pi Day special, but then you also have to brave the crowds. 

    Jerks!  I missed it last year.  But for the few years before that, they would give you a couple weeks to claim the $3.14/pizza.

    I also remember when before-before that and it was only on 3/14.  I went to my closest Blaze that year.  The line was out the door.  I turned right back around and went home.

    I'm sorry to see they have gone back to the worst option.
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    One of our local restaurants who is well known for their pies, always has fun Pi Day specials.

    The struggle at work is very real and I have just found out about the massive gossip going on about me from the mean girls clique here to add to that.  I ended up relapsing last night, b/c I desparately needed to numb out of my feelings for a bit.  I was able to, I restarted my alcohol counter and reached out to friends for help because this morning I was in a space I haven't been in for awhile.  I"m slowly coming out of it today, but it was rough.

    Okay, tomorrow there are 3 paths forward, 2 of which will bring all of this stress WAY down.  The 3rd path will ratchet it up even higher.  So big purple vibes for Varuna tomorrow.
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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    @VarunaTT, I'm sorry to hear your work issues have become even worse.  I really hope things go your way tomorrow and am sending all the ((hugs)) and purple vibes!
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