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Wedding party?

knottie6504669225c62f6dknottie6504669225c62f6d member
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So I jumped the gun and did my bridesmaids proposal before thinking things through. Everyone knows where the destination wedding is taking place and have all said yes but now I’m wondering if I should just do the MOH at the destination and the rest of the bridal party do something at home for the reception. Any thoughts on this? I feel bad making the girls travel for a 10-15 minute ceremony and then that’s it. They are all important to me so I do want to do something with them but can’t justify asking them to shell out all this money. Any suggestions or help is appreciated. 
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    knottie6504669225c62f6d said:
    So I jumped the gun and did my bridesmaids proposal before thinking things through. Everyone knows where the destination wedding is taking place and have all said yes but now I’m wondering if I should just do the MOH at the destination and the rest of the bridal party do something at home for the reception. Any thoughts on this? I feel bad making the girls travel for a 10-15 minute ceremony and then that’s it. They are all important to me so I do want to do something with them but can’t justify asking them to shell out all this money. Any suggestions or help is appreciated. 
    Why aren't you  hosting a reception at your DW location after you exchange vows?  This is something that you need to be doing for all the people who are invited. 
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    If you're asking anyone to travel, you need to host them afterwards. It doesn't have to be a big fancy ordeal, but you should spring for a meal or some refreshments after the ceremony.

    There's nothing for bridesmaids/MOH to do at an at-home reception. If you decide not to invite them to the wedding, let them know that you decided against a wedding party. You can always celebrate special friendships with a flower, a toast or a heartfelt note. 
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  • knottie6504669225c62f6dknottie6504669225c62f6d member
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    There will be a cocktail reception after but it’s going to be laidback no DJ or anything it’ll be at a bar at the resort 
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    You can't expect guests/wedding party to travel for a wedding and not provide appropriate hosting! You need to have some type of food for them at the reception directly after the wedding- not wait until you have an at home party.
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  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe member
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    A DW with a short ceremony is fine, but everyone you invite to your DW you need to host properly!  That doesn't mean you have to have a dance/DJ and that whole shabang, but that does mean at least meet up and host your guests for a nice meal afterwards as a group to the level everyone is dressing up.  
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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    knottie6504669225c62f6d said:
    So I jumped the gun and did my bridesmaids proposal before thinking things through. Everyone knows where the destination wedding is taking place and have all said yes but now I’m wondering if I should just do the MOH at the destination and the rest of the bridal party do something at home for the reception. Any thoughts on this? I feel bad making the girls travel for a 10-15 minute ceremony and then that’s it. They are all important to me so I do want to do something with them but can’t justify asking them to shell out all this money. Any suggestions or help is appreciated. 
    Your reception will be for the guests that attend your destination wedding.  There is no need at all for a bridal party for an event to celebrate your marriage after the fact.  There is NO point for guests to wear matching outfits to a party.  
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  • ei34ei34 member
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    The wedding reception is whatever comes right after the ceremony, so if it's a cocktail reception, you're welcome to have your BMs at that.  
    If you're having a gathering once home for those who could not travel abroad that's nice too, as long as it's well-hosted.  But that would be a party, not a reception, and bridesmaids would seem strange at a party?  

    I've declined BM offers as well as rsvp'ed no to destination weddings...your friends can pass if it doesn't work for them.  But you'd definitely have them on your wedding day, not a party celebrating your marriage.
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  • knottie21573cda776c7700knottie21573cda776c7700 member
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    MobKaz said:
    knottie6504669225c62f6d said:
    So I jumped the gun and did my bridesmaids proposal before thinking things through. Everyone knows where the destination wedding is taking place and have all said yes but now I’m wondering if I should just do the MOH at the destination and the rest of the bridal party do something at home for the reception. Any thoughts on this? I feel bad making the girls travel for a 10-15 minute ceremony and then that’s it. They are all important to me so I do want to do something with them but can’t justify asking them to shell out all this money. Any suggestions or help is appreciated. 
    Your reception will be for the guests that attend your destination wedding.  There is no need at all for a bridal party for an event to celebrate your marriage after the fact.  There is NO point for guests to wear matching outfits to a party.  
    Yes, the outfit of guests and bridal should have difference. Otherwise, how you will recognize as a bride
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  • ILoveBeachMusicILoveBeachMusic member
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    knottie21573cda776c7700 said:
    MobKaz said:
    knottie6504669225c62f6d said:
    So I jumped the gun and did my bridesmaids proposal before thinking things through. Everyone knows where the destination wedding is taking place and have all said yes but now I’m wondering if I should just do the MOH at the destination and the rest of the bridal party do something at home for the reception. Any thoughts on this? I feel bad making the girls travel for a 10-15 minute ceremony and then that’s it. They are all important to me so I do want to do something with them but can’t justify asking them to shell out all this money. Any suggestions or help is appreciated. 
    Your reception will be for the guests that attend your destination wedding.  There is no need at all for a bridal party for an event to celebrate your marriage after the fact.  There is NO point for guests to wear matching outfits to a party.  
    Yes, the outfit of guests and bridal should have difference. Otherwise, how you will recognize as a bride
    Presumably, the guests will know the bride and groom and recognize them.

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  • knottiea8d305016484b0deknottiea8d305016484b0de member
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    It sounds like you're in a bit of a dilemma, but don't worry, there are definitely solutions that can work for everyone involved. One option could be to have a smaller, more intimate ceremony at the destination with just your Maid of Honor, and then have a larger celebration back home with the rest of your bridal party. This way, you can still include everyone in the festivities without asking them to travel for just a short ceremony.

    Another idea could be to have a virtual ceremony for the bridesmaids who can't make it to the destination wedding. You could livestream the ceremony so that everyone can still feel included, even if they can't physically be there.

    Ultimately, what's most important is that you communicate openly with your bridesmaids and find a solution that works for everyone's budget and availability. They'll likely appreciate your consideration and understanding of their circumstances. Good luck, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

    regards,

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    knottiea8d305016484b0de said:

    It sounds like you're in a bit of a dilemma, but don't worry, there are definitely solutions that can work for everyone involved. One option could be to have a smaller, more intimate ceremony at the destination with just your Maid of Honor, and then have a larger celebration back home with the rest of your bridal party. This way, you can still include everyone in the festivities without asking them to travel for just a short ceremony.

    Another idea could be to have a virtual ceremony for the bridesmaids who can't make it to the destination wedding. You could livestream the ceremony so that everyone can still feel included, even if they can't physically be there.

    Ultimately, what's most important is that you communicate openly with your bridesmaids and find a solution that works for everyone's budget and availability. They'll likely appreciate your consideration and understanding of their circumstances. Good luck, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

    regards,

    What?!
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