Hi all. My FH and I were long distance before I moved across the country ending with him last November. We had been engaged since last May, with a wedding date set for October 1 of this year.
He opened his own bar on August 1 of last year, and since I moved, things have been really hard. Before I moved everything was wonderful and easy. Now with the bar open it just seems like he doesn’t have enough time to work on the relationship. And it’s getting better, I just worry that there’s not enough time before the wedding to get to a place of feeling like we have a solid foundation.
And I’m worried for our future because of how little capacity he has had for our relationship or wedding planning. This might be catastrophic thinking, though, the first year of a new business is very hard from what I’ve been told and what I’ve seen from other friends. And he has had a lot of capacity in the past, and he for a couple months now he has made time for a weekly wedding talk, even if he’s exhausted from work.
We were in couples therapy, but had to stop because we didn’t have time, we are starting up again. And we are starting weekly relationship talks as well. Again, we’ve tried to do these before, but we just didn’t have time with our schedules.
Has anyone else been through this? Any other fiancées whose FH is starting a new business? Or who have been long distance and moved in while engaged? looking for some camaraderie and support here.