Dear Prudence,
My boyfriend of 12 years thinks it’s ok to have his ex-wife’s best friend on his property while I visit. His ex-wife is a born again Christian and her best friend is a 35-year-old virgin. His ex-wife has been wanting to get back together for the last nine years and won’t even be near me. He spends all the holidays with her and two adult children. I don’t want her BFF when I’m there, but he insists. I’ve tried to find common ground, but she refuses and is a total jerk to me. She carries a gun and I don’t feel safe because of some of her past behavior. This caused us to break up … am I wrong?
—Shunned by Ex Wife and BFF