I’m a 31-year-old straight woman, and I’ve never had sex. It’s not like I’m waiting for marriage or anything, it just hasn’t happened, and dating these days feels bleak at times. When I was younger, I never really saw the rush to have sex. My parents were always supportive and provided me with the information I needed about having safe sex so it’s never been a topic that couldn’t be discussed. Now that I’m older, I feel like I’m missing out! I am on birth control, mostly because it helps with my monthly cycle and cramps, but I feel like maybe I’m not putting out the right energy (if that makes sense) but I also don’t want to have sex with just anyone. I don’t know what to do.
—Curious But Not Rushed