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I feel this in my bones, LW.

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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Dear Prudence,

I could use some friends, but I just don’t feel up to it. There are a few moms of my tween’s friends who pass the vibe check and seem really great..but one invited us all over to bonfire it up while the kids trick-or-treat, and it just seems exhausting. Every “mom friendship” has an expiration date built in, it seems. The kids don’t mesh, sabbaticals end, we switch schools, or stay-at-home parents go back to working outside the home. I never see it coming, and always feel bereft. Everyone is too busy to maintain something that doesn’t coincide with our kids’ schedules. It’s fine! It makes sense. It’s not cruelty, it’s just life! My teen is an 8th grader, new-ish to this school, and I know that this group of kids will all be a different high-schools next year. How do I muster the energy to enjoy what could be really great, probably temporary, camaraderie with their pretty dope moms?

—Tired Mom Seeking Same? Maybe?

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Re: I feel this in my bones, LW.

  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    LW’s kids are in their teens? Or does she have younger?  Either way a lot of my friends have kids that are older and don’t need sitters and we’re fine. Maybe LW is looking for a mom-friend when she should be looking for maybe just a friend? 

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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    I agree the LW should look for a friend and not necessarily a mom friend.  But it's also fine to enjoy friendships for what they are right now.

    It's weird to me the LW views going to a bonfire as exhausting.  It's just a casual, fun night out.  I guess because she thinks it will deepen the friendships too much?  Or do they find doing anything social as exhausting?  If it's the latter, it seems like the LW is the one who doesn't have the inclination to become close friends with someone.
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    These don’t have to be lifelong friends, they could be friends you commiserate with over coffee and 8am Saturday morning activities or practices. 

    I say go to the bonfire. Yea you’ll be tired but it will help pass the time at the next 5 years of events to have someone to talk with. 
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