Hi all,
Looking for advice on how to handle this situation and if it's worth bringing up to my partner. For background, my boyfriend and I have been together 6 years and have been discussing an engagement and marriage recently. We agreed we'd like to be engaged within the next 6-8 months or so.We went engagement ring shopping together about 3 weeks ago, and I went back to look at additional options.
Today, my mom called me and told me she just got off the phone with my boyfriend, and mentioned how much she likes him and how she's so happy for us. While I knew he was planning to call her to tell her he is planning to propose, my mom then told me it will happen during a trip we have planned for November. This part was a total surprise to me - I wanted us to be on the same page in terms of timing for a proposal, rings I like, etc. However, the actual proposal in terms on when and where, I wanted to be a surprise.
I told my mom to stop talking about it as I didn't know, and she was devastated. I could tell how upset she was that she overshared and I truly don't believe it was done maliciously.
My question - do I tell my boyfriend? On the one hand, I don't want him to be upset with my mom and feel that she ruined the surprise, as I know he's put a lot of time, thought, and effort into it. On the other hand, I don't know if it's fair to let him think it was a total surprise and lie to him by keeping this from him. Any ideas, past experiences, and suggestions are appreciated!