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HELP - i HATE the label of Bridesmaid

knottie42344afb7915ac19knottie42344afb7915ac19 newb
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I am ready to ask my bridal party to be a part of our big day, but I hate the MOH and BM labels. I recently saw an Instagram video of someone using "Lady of..." for their party to show their roles in the bride's life. I am just having a problem coming up with different titles that don's sound too similar.

I currently have:

Lady of Laughter 
Lady of Support
Lady of Encouragement

Any other suggestions are greatly appreciated :)
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Re: HELP - i HATE the label of Bridesmaid

  • banana468banana468 member
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    Can you be more specific regarding why you don't like those names?  The reason that they work is that they're universally understood.
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    knottie42344afb7915ac19 said:
    I am ready to ask my bridal party to be a part of our big day, but I hate the MOH and BM labels. I recently saw an Instagram video of someone using "Lady of..." for their party to show their roles in the bride's life. I am just having a problem coming up with different titles that don's sound too similar.

    I currently have:

    Lady of Laughter 
    Lady of Support
    Lady of Encouragement

    Any other suggestions are greatly appreciated :)
    Listen, I am not trying to be an asshole...but "Lady of X" just sounds so dumb. You could call them Bridal Attendants. 


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  • knottie42344afb7915ac19knottie42344afb7915ac19 newb
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    They are all so important to my life that I think that given them the hierarchy labels is placing them on a ladder. They all bring something to the table, if that makes sense
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    knottie42344afb7915ac19 said:
    They are all so important to my life that I think that given them the hierarchy labels is placing them on a ladder. They all bring something to the table, if that makes sense
    Yes, but using "Bridal Attendants" or just  calling them all "Bridesmaids" without delineating "Maid of Honor vs Bridesmaid" works just as well.  You're definitely overthinking this. 


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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    I was in a wedding once where the bride asked me to be an attendant, but gave it some kind of stupid name. I don't remember what it was now, but it was something like Lady of Festivities. I had no idea what this was supposed to mean and assumed that I was some kind of second tier bridesmaid. It wasn't until the rehearsal that I figured out that I was actually a bridesmaid. 

    Just ask them to be bridal attendants or wedding party members if you don't like the maid terminology. There is no reason to over complicate things.
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  • ei34ei34 member
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    "Wedding party" or "bridal attendants" would probably be the best substitute for bridesmaids.  And then if you want to thank one who is a very encouraging friend, or a friend who always make you laugh, etc., you could write that into your thank you cards that accompany your BM gifts.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Ditto everyone else then.  I knew people who said that they refused to make one person the MOH so she called them all bridesmaids/matrons and that is fine.  Calling them brides attendants also works.  But coming up with a name that no one knows can be confusing for both the honorees and the guests. 
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    I would just call them wedding party members and let it go at that.

    "Lady of X" sounds like you're trying too hard to be "original/unique/clever" and it comes off as cutesy and off-putting. It also comes off as boxing in your attendants' personalities into one particular trait for each, which can also be off-putting.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Jen4948 said:
    I would just call them wedding party members and let it go at that.

    "Lady of X" sounds like you're trying too hard to be "original/unique/clever" and it comes off as cutesy and off-putting. It also comes off as boxing in your attendants' personalities into one particular trait for each, which can also be off-putting.
    And people will also wonder, "What IS she?"  If it's not clear it helps no one. 
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