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Finally!  Hope everyone has some relaxation time planned for the next couple of days!
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    @CharmedPam good on you for seeing the pattern of behavior and ending it.  I had a relationship with an abuser before I dated DH and he was powerful over me and my mind to the point that I'll still get my subconscious activated in dreams time to time.  He was bad news.

    @ei34 my Chiquita is too old for the pageant but Chiquito can still be in it and kids are allowed through 7th grade.  The last two years he's been Joseph and I believe he's looking to reprise the role.   He insists he does NOT want to be an animal.  The pageant is before the Christmas Eve vigil Mass and one of my favorite parts of the holiday season.

    Chiquita has a big audition tomorrow and has been working on her Italian pronunciations as she has a long aria that is her piece.  After that we head home and need to tidy up and get ready for the town's light parade which (checks phone) will be a warm 25-27 degrees and by the water.   
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  • CasadenaCasadena member
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    Morning! Sounds like everyone has had a decent week minus the ridiculous cold and snow! I was in Calgary all week and it was warmer than CHI - not what i expected for December. I packed about 10 meetings into 48 hours and attended a couple events and am very peopled out. But H's work christmas party is tonight so we need to go to that. My parents are coming in to babysit for the night. G's birthday party is Sunday morning and i am just not ready at all for Christmas. the next couple weeks will be nuts. Kid behavior continues to be insane. Overwhelmed and tired even though it's all from good stuff! 

    I'll post Prudie shortly :)
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    *hugs* @charmedpam. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You noticed a pattern and you got out. 

    I’m sick, boo. The silver lining is hopefully I recover before Christmas. I’d be really upset if I got sick right before and couldn’t go to my grandparents. 

    Otherwise SSDD. I’m exhausted and plan on drugging myself all weekend. 

    I hope everyone has a safe, nice, healthy and fun weekend! 


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  • CasadenaCasadena member
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    @CharmedPam - good for your for recognizing an issue and adjusting/sticking to your decisions <3
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  • ei34ei34 member
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    Feel better soon @levioosa, I know you're a caretaker in and out of work but try and rest
    Vibes your way @casadena with the busy-ness and happy birthday to G!
    It's hard to leave a relationship sometimes @CharmedPam, good on you for being so self-aware and yay for therapy later today
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    @CharmedPam if you ever need to talk, you can HMU.  K was a diagnosed borderline personality disorder which behavior-wise is the same as narcissism, but the intent behind it comes from a different place.  And yes, you are called "supply" and they will do anything to keep you in that stable for them, so they're never alone, so that they can continue to get what they need from you.  I'm proud that you were able to step back in just a few short months.  Be very proud of yourself.  I still struggle with some of the damage K did to me AND they still contact me randomly about once a year, trying to pull me back in.  I had an article saved called, "How to Survive A Break Up with a BPD Person" that I had to read multiple times/day at the beginning and just recently let it go from my bookmarks, b/c I knew that I would never go back now.  But hell, even this most recent attempt a few months ago, knowing what I know, I had to work not to respond to their most recent text message -- even to scream at them through it.  B/c that's all the door they need.

    I think I'm finally finished ordering new clothes.  This is my pattern: drop a few hundred on clothes, never buy clothes again for years (I think last time was 5 years ago?).  But I have a lot more warm, camera friendly, comfortable outfits, a nice new Christmas outfit, another new pair of pants, and a few cute new tops.  I'll be going through my closet, getting rid of most of my office dresses because I don't want to move them if I don't need them anymore.  I'll keep some favorites.  I donate them to an organization here that helps women with job interviews, trying to put their lives back together from domestic violence.

    Otherwise, SSDD.  Doing all of my bedclothes today, the duvet, comforter, and mattress cover.  Harley is peeved, b/c I stripped the bed instead of making it, which is one of her favorite activities to "help" with.  No big plans for the weekend.  I have some new books to read, some movies to watch, and just regular chores.  I'll see Mom on Sunday.  Ladies sound busy with holidays stuffs, so have a great time!


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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    @CharmedPam, I'm sorry you went through that roller coaster and he ended up being the wrong guy for you.  But congrats on recognizing what was going on before your feelings got even more involved.

    One of the benefits of being older is wisdom and experience.  I look back on a few of the relationships/dates I had when I was younger and laugh at how lucky some of those guys were.  Because early 20s Jenny was too nice and "understanding" of why they might act the way they do.  Early 50s Jenny would have kicked them to the curb much sooner and stopped trying to revive bad relationships.

    I took a sick day yesterday and am SO glad I did.  I was feeling extra tired and had a headache, but I mainly I needed break from the frantic pace and just a day to relax and sleep in more.  I was almost caught up from urgent work stuff and finally felt like I could afford the time for a bit of a mental health day.  I feel so much more refreshed.  And just in time for the weekend anyway!
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  • ILoveBeachMusicILoveBeachMusic member
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    I finally got the kitchen floor mopped after I finished today's batch of cookies. Now we are waiting for DD and family to arrive. We are having french bread pizza for dinner tonight. Hope the boys like it.

    @CharmedPam good for you for recognizing a pattern and steering away from it.
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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    Thanks all! I actually am a bit embarrassed for giving him an extra 5 weeks of myself because I did think because of my age I should have known better. But my friend did console me telling me she thought it was something you had to experience firsthand in order to fully understand and get it.  She’s right because I know about narcissists and all that - mostly from what she went through - so why did I ignore all the signs?

    Mental days are the best @short+sassy, so many people at work are taking the 2 weeks off around the holidays for a needed break. Not me. The four days are enough.

    i feel like I also go through clothing stages but they’re not as sparse as 5 years lol. Actually I just checked and I haven’t bought something for myself since Dec 3rd.  That’s amazing for me! 

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