My fiance and I decided a destination wedding to avoid the whole religion thing...

Re: My fiance and I decided a destination wedding to avoid the whole religion thing...

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  January 15

  knottied72646b9fa1d90d8 said:

  So my fiance and I had decided to do a destination wedding. I'm greek-orthodox and he's catholic. We decided a destination wedding, smaller crowd and to do a non-religious ceremony so we're not favoring one over the other. My parents were okay with it...BUT now theyre saying to do a small church ceremony when we come back, but only MY church. I clearly stated to them I never pictured myself getting married in a church and they found it so insulting thinking im pushing away their religious beliefs. Keep in my mind were not crazy religious...just during the holidays and stuff such as Easter...or when it's time to baptize a child. But yeah, i never pictured myself getting married in a church at all. I just want one ceremony that doesn't involve any religion to keep it simple and fair for BOTH sides

  I think you probably need to do some deeper discussion with your FI and then how you see your future.
  
  I do not know the rules for a Greek Orthodox but as a Catholic, if you choose to marry outside the church then you cease being a Catholic in good standing.  I know there is some level of reciprocity with the Russian Orthodox church and Catholic church in terms of marriages performed in churches being recognized.
  
  But if you opt to marry in a DW that is entirely secular and civil only, you will no longer be in good standing.  It would mean that you can pursue Baptism for any future children however your FI would not be able to serve as a Catholic godparent or sponsor for Baptism or those converting to the faith.   In addition, your FI would not be able to receive Holy Communion.
  
  Those are just some of the things to consider before you two make that decision.  Depending on the family, some take the faith strongly enough that they won't attend the ceremony of someone who is of their faith and opts to marry outside it.  That said, I also don't think you should be pushed into something that you know is not going to be for you at all.  
  
  Consider what your faith is to you and if you and perhaps talking with a priest in your faith without your parents present so you can make a fully informed decision about how you want to proceed. 

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