Dear Prudence,
I am lucky enough that I have a fairly large close-friend group that has known each other since University. Somewhere along the line, I have become the secret keeper, as my friends realized that I gave solid advice but more importantly, I never shared anything they asked me not. I have made it clear to my friends that if they share anything about infidelity or something that concerns me about their wellbeing that I would share it and get help from within or outside of the group
Well, recently two female friends confided in me that they are dating and have been for the past six months. They only just shared the news more widely, and now one friend is acting like I committed the biggest betrayal by not outing the relationship. As far as everyone knew (me included), they were straight. Somehow, she has managed to convince two others that I was wrong not to share this as we are such a close-knit group.
I know it is not my place to say anything, so am I living in the twilight zone that I didn’t share this? It is causing arguments and bad feeling in the group. I feel disgusted by their behavior and want to go nuclear and cut off anyone who wants to associate with them. Is this even worth another conversation to try and salvage the friendships?