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Um, what? Promise to take her kids out for THEIR birthdays

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I’m in my early 20s and luckily have been able to land myself an amazingly high-paying job. I currently live in an apartment with my boyfriend (we split expanses), and we both love to travel.

The problem is my sister. She didn’t go to college and dropped out of high school at 17 after becoming pregnant with my nephew (whom I adore). Fast forward to today, she’s a stay-at-home mom and has had two more kids who I spend a lot of time with. I recently got an amazing bonus and to celebrate my birthday, I’ve decided to go on a trip to the Maldives. My boyfriend and I both work a lot, so just spending time relaxing, drinking mai tais on the beach, and snorkeling sounds amazing. Well, when I told my family what we’re going to do, my sister threw a huge fit. She screamed at me, telling me that I should spend my birthday with her kids because she works so hard. I haven’t talked to her since this, and I don’t know what to do.

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Re: Um, what? Promise to take her kids out for THEIR birthdays

  • levioosalevioosa member
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    I'm so lost as to why LW would need to spend time with their nieces and nephews for their birthday? Sister is delulu. Go live your best life and go to the Maldives for your birthday, LW. 


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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Oh dear.

    I'd hate to reduce contact w/ kids who need them but sis is so full of entitlement that I don't think there's anything for the LW to do but live her best life.  IMO, if you like the kids don't punish them because of their mom.  But mom's likely lamenting how life is going and projecting.  That's not the way to get things to change. 
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    Go on vacation.

    Honestly, all of this backstory doesn't matter and it kinda makes OP look like sh!t.  Your sister could be the same level of success, less success, it doesn't matter, anyone who would throw a fit that you're taking a vacation over their birthday (spouse aside who presumably is going with you) is being an AW and doesn't need to be paid attention to.

    I wouldn't talk to her until she reached out and I'd bean dip the convo.  If she brings it up, "I'm not speaking to you about this, my decision is made" and take it from there.
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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    It's completely bizarre the sister doesn't want the LW to go on vacation.  As if the LW was going to be babysitting the nieces/nephews on her own birthday anyway.

    I assume the sister is jealous and that was why she lashed out over nothing.  Tough shit.  The sisters chose to go down different paths at this point in their lives.  The sister has enviable things in her life as a SAHM that the LW doesn't get to enjoy.  It's pathetic she not only rained on the LW's parade, but then got angry about it.  The LW isn't cool either to judge her sister's life, but the sister is far worse to me in this particular situation.

    Especially with the sister complaining about "how hard she works".  Yeah, and?  So does the LW.  That's how she got a bonus and is rewarding herself with a trip, smh.

    At any rate, I don't know why the LW wrote to Prudie.  Go to the Maldives.  Who cares what the sister thinks when she is being ridiculous.  The LW should wait until the sister apologizes to her.  Though the one really unfortunate thing I can understand is it sounds like the LW is close to her nieces/nephews.  As long as her and her sister are at odds, she probably won't see them at all.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    VarunaTT said:
    Go on vacation.

    Honestly, all of this backstory doesn't matter and it kinda makes OP look like sh!t.  Your sister could be the same level of success, less success, it doesn't matter, anyone who would throw a fit that you're taking a vacation over their birthday (spouse aside who presumably is going with you) is being an AW and doesn't need to be paid attention to.

    I wouldn't talk to her until she reached out and I'd bean dip the convo.  If she brings it up, "I'm not speaking to you about this, my decision is made" and take it from there.
    Agreed, but I bet money (I don't currently have, LMAO) that older sis has been pissed forever that lil' sis didn't make the same decisions/mistakes she did and is having success AT her.  OP has probably ate shit from her for years because she loves her nephew(s)/niece(s). 

    Anyway, this isn't even worth writing Prudie over. If this truly went down the way OP is stating, then sister is completely nonsensical, and her complaints don't deserve a response.  Take the trip, ignore you sister, and see the kids if/when you can.  
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    mrsconn23 said:
    VarunaTT said:
    Go on vacation.

    Honestly, all of this backstory doesn't matter and it kinda makes OP look like sh!t.  Your sister could be the same level of success, less success, it doesn't matter, anyone who would throw a fit that you're taking a vacation over their birthday (spouse aside who presumably is going with you) is being an AW and doesn't need to be paid attention to.

    I wouldn't talk to her until she reached out and I'd bean dip the convo.  If she brings it up, "I'm not speaking to you about this, my decision is made" and take it from there.
    Agreed, but I bet money (I don't currently have, LMAO) that older sis has been pissed forever that lil' sis didn't make the same decisions/mistakes she did and is having success AT her.  OP has probably ate shit from her for years because she loves her nephew(s)/niece(s). 

    Anyway, this isn't even worth writing Prudie over. If this truly went down the way OP is stating, then sister is completely nonsensical, and her complaints don't deserve a response.  Take the trip, ignore you sister, and see the kids if/when you can.  
    I'd also be willing to bet that this wouldn't be enough to estrange her from her nieces/nephews because sister isn't about to let a free gifting/babysitting service go even if she's sickly jealous about LWs success and trip.


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