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ei34 · March 7

We made it. Wishing everyone a restful and joyful weekend!

ei34 · March 7

Today should be a normal work day. Next week is a big spirit week at work, the students get really into it and check out academically, I embrace that and made this week pretty assessment heavy so next can be light, but it means more grading than usual this weekend.
Other than grading, we'll have a pizza night tonight, PT tomorrow morning, the kids have a swim meet late afternoon, with Sunday being mass, cooking, and one of the kids has a birthday party, but from 4-6, which is kind of an annoying time imo, but I doubt we'll do a Sunday night movie. So pretty busy, but nothing too crazy.

banana468 · March 7

I'll be in and out today getting Chiquita downtown to solicit ads for the school play. Then I pick her up, get her packed and get her dinner when she's on her way to a conference this weekend.

Tonight, we have the option to go to the fish fry which is at our parish and then eventually Chiquito has hitting clinic before baseball evaluations which are Sunday.

Tomorrow we're planning to car shop and have a chill day and Sunday afternoon may be Mass out of town due to the timing of kids.

DH's anxiety is concerning me in his anxiety and overall health. He's been seeing his physicians and counselor so he isn't ignoring things but it makes him nervous which is obviously not helping anxiety.

Casadena · March 7

All G's labs look good, very thankful for that! Yesterday was a fun little family day. Took both kids downtown and went to a great donut shop (Stan's for those familiar) for second breakfast, G had a quick blood draw and checkup with H while N and I stayed in the waiting room. Kiddo was living his best life with a movie on the iPad AND Bluey playing on the waiting room TV. G gets very excited to show N around the hospital, so we had to stop everywhere he knows (the kid play room, the garden, the cafeteria, the gift shop, etc). It's adorable. We had packed lunches in the car after while we drove to the Children's Museum near our house that we were gifted a membership to. They had fun for a couple hours

Bedtime was a gd nightmare and I'm at the point where I'm ready to take everything but their blankets and mattresses out of their room and just let them go ape s**t til they fall asleep.

Cousins bday party tomorrow and maybe gymnastics - they're at the same time so we're going to play it by ear. Have a feeling they wont want to leave the party once they get there which is totally ok for this weekend.

Have a ton of work to do in the next few bus days and i'm just SO over it. None of it is hard, just busy work mostly, but i'm just lacking a bit of motivation today.

Happy weekend!

ILoveBeachMusic · March 7

We had a fun quick trip to see DS2 yesterday. It was his birthday so we took him out to dinner (entire reason for visit). We also got to see the house inside and out. His realtor told him the repairs had been completed and he needed to do a walk through so he scheduled while we were there. It is cute. The bedrooms are a little small but it is only him so it is a great starter home. The yard is great. Most of it is in the back and is entirely fenced. There are also trees along the back property line which gives some privacy from neighbors. I'm hitting up an estate sale today to look at some more furniture for him. He doesn't need a lot. A chest of drawers and a book shelf would be nice. He wants to make the dining area off of the living room a reading/music nook. This estate sale also has some out door furniture so thought I'd check that out since he has a freshly poured patio.

This weekend will be doing laundry and packing for my book club trip to Florida. I leave on Monday. Probably some housework too. However, it will just be H at home and he doesn't care if the furniture is dusty or not!

charlotte989875 · March 7

We’re good here, glad it’s finally Friday. We have a birthday party for our nephew tomorrow and M and J both start back up with swim lessons tomorrow. We joined the YMCA and it’s so much cheaper but the pool is cold and I have to go in with J. Other than that quiet, nice weekend.

VarunaTT · March 7

I'm SO glad it's Friday. I have had so much work this week and missing a day and a half, then adding a new attorney. I'm glad for the work and the trust, but whew, it's been a change.

No big plans for the weekend. I'm going over to Mom's on Sunday and I will build some of my new furniture and take some things over to start moving. My goal is to have everything but daily use stuffs over there, so that all we're moving is big furniture the day of. I have a friend, KG, who does outdoor work for Mom. She is going to come with me on Sunday, to help build, but also run a little interference for me. Mom has been making me kinda irritable with some of the complaining....about situations she entirely caused. I do laugh about it too though; she told me once, "When you make your mind up about something, you move immediately, and that's not always the best idea." Looking at her right now, well...I know where THAT came from. It's really weird that I can look at her and see the version of me that didn't do the work to get my emotions and unproductive patterns under control or at least recognized. BUT I'm also seeing her this way at a point in time where she's starting to fail too, so I think it just seems/feels worse. Her memory really is going and it's scary, TBH.

Otherwise, SSDD. I hope everyone has a great weekend. I also hope the kiddos who didn't have their ADHD medicines yesterday did all the things okay.

levioosa · March 7

*Hugs* @VarunaTT. It can be a trip to look at an adult parent and see patterns reflected back. I constantly look at my mom and think "okay, what can I do to NOT be like this both now and as I age." Because I could definitely see myself doing some of the same toxic patterns if I didn't make a super conscious effort to work on it.

I am going to the grandparent's tomorrow. Steeling myself because my Aunt sent a picture yesterday and my Grandfather looks awful. Maybe the worst I've ever seen him. He's never looked his age, but now he does. It's like he aged 10 years in 2 weeks. I realized yesterday that I need to figure out shit for if he passes at home and he's not on hospice. Who do we call? I've never been in that situation before. Any death at a home I've ever experienced has either been a clear 911, unexpected death, or it's been someone on hospice. But someone who is terminal and elderly but refusing hospice? From what I can tell we still have to call 911 and that really sucks because then the police and ME have to come out instead of being a peaceful transition.

Otherwise, SSDD. I think the gym tonight, and then tomorrow morning I'll head to my grandparents. Unfortunately H has finals and he can't go with me. On the bright side, my grandparents were totally okay with all of the rain, no flooding happened to them, and the mountains are absolutely beautiful today and covered in snow. We are expecting more rain next week too. It's a nice crisp day out and the air is nice after the recent storm.

banana468 · March 7

@levioosa is there an option to look into that w/ caregivers or even calling a funeral home?

Also, as morbid as it sounds the next phase is figuring out any desired plans for the inevitable as the cost isn't that cheap and the financing can rip a family apart. It happened nearly 4 years ago when DH's grandmother passed. They'd pre-paid for the funeral services at the home but not the reception. DH's aunt and uncle put themselves in charge of the funeral reception, didn't consult the family with what to do/serve and then sent a bill split evenly amongst the siblings. However it's important to note that those in charge have 12 children, most of whom have families of their own. The remaining siblings have 9 children (also in the same situation) followed by 2 (FIL) and zero, DH's uncle. it created a massive argument with the statement "do not darken our door" when there was pushback - and all of it was entirely avoidable.

Casadena · March 7

@banana468 @levioosa I was going to suggest the same re: funeral homes/services. If I remember correctly back to my grandparents passing, the funeral home handled most of the transport, etc. Worth someone checking into so you don't have to go through the chaos of calling authorities unless it's a last resort. I'm so sorry to hear about his decline - your family is lucky to have you even though they don't seem to realize it.

levioosa · March 7

@banana468 I think there's plans. It's more just the in between piece of immediate after death steps that I don't think anyone knows about. I don't think we can just call a funeral home for pick up because it's not an attended death and someone has to call time of death. I'm not worried about the burial or ceremony or anything like that and I know they already have plans and funds set aside for those, but the last thing I want is for my Grandmother to be traumatized or overwhelmed by police showing up and having to call the ME and wait for them to show just to get him transported. I also need to make sure the DNR orders are readily available to make sure there aren't any resuscitation attempts (and that would absolutely be traumatic). I am zero percent concerned about them calling it anything other than natural causes, but it feels like something distressing that we can easily avoid with some forethought. They finally have a caregiver coming next week, but it's no one skilled in this sort of thing, it's just for bathing/cleaning, etc. And who knows, maybe he has another six months or a year (extremely doubtful, I think we are looking at days or weeks), I just want the end to be as peaceful for everyone as possible. I'd like to have a notepad in the kitchen with all relevant info already dictated instead of trying to search last minute while grieving.

Sorry to be a downer everyone.

banana468 · March 7

@levioosa you're not a downer. We don't talk about death as much as we should in that we nearly avoid the things that are required and necessary

VarunaTT · March 7

@levioosa this isn't being a downer. Dying is a whole process, not just of personal grief, but of removing a life from the bureaucracy. and it's a bitch and a half and there aren't a lot of resources for navigating it.

I haven't had anyone who passed at home, so IDK the immediate after. if you know there are plans, maybe call the funeral home who has them? I'm 100% sure they'll be able to advise you on the steps you need to take. Ours was invaluable.

banana468 · March 8

The only people I know who passed had it happen suddenly. I *think* my uncle didn't go directly to the funeral home but my aunt was pronounced dead when she died suddenly and the funeral home came to get her. The local police who were there during the pronouncement stayed until the funeral home came and took her.

In my aunt's situation I got there just after the paramedics left so I don't know everything but it wasn't expected either.

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