Again, no middle ground here?

Casadena · March 19

Dear Prudence,

I’m a devoted runner and my girlfriend constantly asks me to run with her, but she’s just too slow. Would asking her to find someone else to run with be rude?

—Not Interested in a Snail’s Pace

VarunaTT · March 19

Jesus, be a 4x4 into these men's heads.

levioosa · March 19

I would totally be with you @VarunaTT but H is so goddamn slow when we are walking or hiking it feels like I don’t even get a real workout in so we don’t end up going together often. BIL A is also so goddamn slow and it makes SIL A and I lose our minds. So if we hike together usually we end up leaving the guys in the dust. Meander all you want that’s my workout I’m trying to squeeze in.

That being said, sometimes H and I do nice slow neighborhood walks so it’s not like I refuse to go with him.

VarunaTT · March 20

I kinda get it, but I follow 2 fitness influencers who are married to each other, Ben Carpenter and Sohee (IDK her last name). Sohee loves to run and does it with a weighted vest and everything. Ben loathes running, but has taken it up to surprise her and run a few races with and without her. He's slower than she is. They run apart and together at times, according to their videos. This just isn't a hard compromise to make in my mind. Additionally, his GF might have some safety issues she's worried about, so he could run with her, a bit slower, and then run his own pace at other times. Or he could run with her, get ahead, and wait.

There are just so many other options than, "she's slow and it's inconveniencing me" is just being an asshole and waiting validation for it.

Casadena · March 20

Exactly that @VarunaTT. I get taking your training seriously and not interrupting your workouts/times/etc/whatever. But you can't just run with her sometimes just because? It can't be just a thing you do together because SHE wants to sometimes? idk, it doesn't have to be all or nothing.

ei34 · March 20

Agree with above. Can they not go on a jog together once a week or so?

levioosa · March 20

ei34 said:

Agree with above. Can they not go on a jog together once a week or so?

I save my rest day active recovery walks to do with H lol.

MyNameIsNot · March 20

levioosa said:

ei34 said:

Agree with above. Can they not go on a jog together once a week or so?

I save my rest day active recovery walks to do with H lol.

This! Every runner knows you have to have some easy runs in the mix. Do your easy/zone 2 runs at her pace and do your speed workouts on your own.

Again, no middle ground here?

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