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• ei34 member

  

  March 21

  Had a small student emergency earlier but they seem in a better place now, thankfully.
  Busy next couple of days, all nice things, but bracing myself.  Highlights include a musical at the high school tonight that the kids are excited for, one of the DDs bestie's birthday parties tomorrow at the local ice skating rink (for her, the other two and I aren't staying), a birthday celebration at Benihana tomorrow night, and on Sunday after mass we have tickets to the new Snow White.  I don't know if they kids will adore it, but Disney does such a good job with trailers and the last several movies we've seen, it's been one of the previews, so the kids were very excited about it. I got my mom a ticket too, fun fact is in 1987 Disney re-released snow white in theaters as a 50th anniversary celebration.  My mom took me, I was 3 and it was my first movie theater experience (as well as one of my earliest memories).  I was terrified, lol, but still wanted to include my mom, who accepted. 

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• Casadena member

  

  March 21

  All I want to do is clean my house! I'm sitting in a messy dining/living room right now trying to do my work as fast as possible so i can pick up...let me tell you, i never thought I'd get to the point in my life where vacuuming is stress relief.  Chill night tonight then activities/packing tomorrow and leaving for IA for the week first thing Sunday. Getting my haircut today and am very exited about it!!

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• CharmedPam member

  

  March 21

  Oh Snow White! Forgot about that. My friend wants to see a movie Tuesday so maybe this is something we can agree on! I like horror, she likes drama/romance.
  Last night’s dinner went very well. Except I hang out with a good friend of mine and her whole conversation is how bad her marriage is. It’s really just a friendship with paperwork if you ask me, and friend is a loose term. Anyway, it’s all she talks about. You can imagine how draining that is if we’re always hanging out. I haven’t seen her in over a month and had a nice break. Well, yesterday a new person came to dinner with us, and she had a new ear to hear how bad her life is. I don’t really like deep drawn out gloomy talk.  Sure, it’s a fact of life, and maybe I’m just bored with her drama, but I think the other 4 were trying to change up the subject.  I have dinner again with her tomorrow but it’s with a larger group that knows her history. Not that she’s not shy about reiterating it.  Let’s talk about fun things!!! Especially with strangers. 
  i have therapy today, and then the musical waitress tonight.
  re: therapy do your parents or that generation turn their nose down on therapy? Like it’s a bad thing to need a therapist or is it just mine that think that? My parents were more than willing to send me off to therapy when I was younger for my eating disorder. It was fine for me then! When I suggested therapy for my brother and them and their rocky relationship, they said they’d go, but didn’t think they would need it.

  On Tuesday when I suggested the dinner, I asked a group of friends via text and one wrote back “I would but I have therapy that night so I don’t loose my mind!”. I’d put her somewhere between 55-60 but I’m awful at guessing ages.
  

  In October I went back into therapy, as you know. I didn’t know if my intuition was intuitioning with S or it was really paranoia. I ended up leaving him but staying in therapy just ‘cus. Well, my mom, aunt and myself had a bit to drink on the cruiseship last week and somehow therapy came up and I told them I was in it. “Oh but why?” My aunt asked
  

  “For my own confidence and well being” I said. 

  “Did you know that?” My aunt asked my mom. My mom shook her head and said “no I didn’t” like going was a bad thing.

  It’s so funny how it’s accepted with people “my” age but your deemed ‘weak’ if you go to my parent’s generation.   

  
  

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  March 21

  Oh no @CharmedPam my mom is the same. She absolutely hates that I went to therapy after M was born and it helped a ton. And so the same- she was fine to take me for an eating disorder but apparently postpartum anxiety doesn’t warrant therapy. She once said “they just blame everyone on the parents” and ya know maybe having that attitude toward therapy is something my mom should explore in therapy. 

  
  

  More flu- my mom is sick now so we’ve been playing baby handoff for all our meetings today. 

  
  

  I might strangle (not really!) H. Whenever things are off schedule he’s impossible and moody. Like yes this sucks, yes we’ve had kids sick for two weeks and no childcare for two days and we have to work at night and no one has gotten to work out, or go out- but none of that is my fault! He’s cranky and annoyed so he’s taking it out on me. I don’t love this either but I can contain my feelings (again, thanks therapy!)

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• levioosa member

  

  March 21

  @CharmedPam my mom goes to therapy and my dad just started going. Dad was an ass for a really long time about it though. He also would make comments about how “it doesn’t work anyways, look at your mom, it’s not even doing anything for her.” Bro it’s been like six months. Six months of therapy is not going to undo 70 years of trauma and 40 years of a shitty marriage. And my mom is that woman in your friend group. Just always something awful about her life and how terrible everything is. I can’t stand it. Also my dad totally ruined my brother’s perspective of therapy because they attempted family therapy with him, and my dad was absolutely awful and my brother hasn’t wanted to go back since. 

  
  

  Not sure entirely what the weekend will hold. Tomorrow we are going on a hike and then SIL A and I are going to the mall. I am super out of soap and need to hit up BB&B plus I have a birthday gifts to claim at a couple of stores (yay). 

  
  

  It’s our wedding anniversary on Sunday so I’m trying to figure out what to do there. We can’t really afford to go anywhere overnight but we should try to do a nice dinner or something. I am skipping the grandparents this weekend. H went yesterday to help out. Grandpa was feeling really energetic which is either good or really bad. But I can’t focus on the negative. I’m going to enjoy my weekend and know that he’s been feeling happier and better and at least this time (unlike my bday weekend) my family isn’t texting me trying to get me to do stuff and panicking. I’m looking forward to trying to do something fun this weekend. 

  
  

  I’m feeling antsy to get out of work today lol. 

  
  

  Ooh and they delivered the vacuum last night and I finally got to clean the floor. The vacuum felt weak but it definitely sucked up a ton of hair so I guess it’s more powerful than I expected. 

  
  

  I hope the transfer goes smoothly @MNNEBride. I know it’s hard to have him in a facility for a minute but I hope it also provides you a little respite from being a full time caregiver too. *hugs*

  
  

  I hope everyone recovers quickly @charlotte989875

  
  

  
  

  

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• short+sassy member

  

  March 21

  @ei34, I think my first movie was the first Star Wars.  That was for my 4th birthday.  I can't help but think it was more a gift for my dad, lol.  We went to a Chinese restaurant after that.  I decided that since I was 4, I was a "big girl" and should eat with chopsticks.  I had NO idea how to eat with chopsticks.  I held one in each of my fisted hands and then tried to balance each bite up to my mouth.  My mom jokes it was the LONGEST dinner of her life.  But I was so cute and determined about it, that she and my dad couldn't help but be patient.
  
  @CharmedPam, Hmmm, I'm not sure how my mom feels about therapy.  I feel like she's usually been at least positive for when "it's needed".  I've never heard her be dismissive about it.  But it's also not a subject that's come up very often.
  
  @levioosa, happy early anniversary!
  
  I watched a Chopped episode a few days ago that featured Thai chefs and cuisine.  It was also a heavy tie-in advertisement for White Lotus.  For example, one of the actors from the show was the person that listed off the basket ingredients.
  
  I haven't watched the show yet, but have been interested.  That Chopped episode inspired me to plan a White Lotus binge day this weekend.  Complete with multiple take-out dishes from a Thai restaurant that is walking distance to my house.
  
  I need to hit up my neighbor friend to see if she wants to join me.  That is one of her favorite restaurants and I think the concept of the show would appeal to her also.  But there is no telling.  She is very picky about movies/tv, but when she likes something she really likes it.

  

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