Fri-yay

ei34 · March 28

We made it! Hope that everyone has some downtime moments this weekend!

banana468 · March 28

Downtime? I don't understand!

We should actually have some. Chiquita has track practice tomorrow and then I need to scoot her to buy her uniform jersey right after and then to church where she's getting service hours to help with the 1st Communion retreat for the 2nd graders. While she's there I'm helping run a cookie booth. The weather should HOPEFULLY be nice to boot.

Sunday I'm thinking it's only church and then we're able to have a normal afternoon before Chiquita has religious class. I desperately need to clean bathrooms and floors.

ei34 · March 28

Nothing particularly restful here, unfortunately. I actually just realized that tomorrow holds PT (my last session!) 7:30-8:30, a boy scouts pinewood derby 9:30-10:30, a birthday party 12-2, the final swim practice of the year which is a "fun" practice- the kids can bring noodles and floats- from 3-5, and the DDs have their first softball game of the season 6-8. Ouch. Going to try and get my cleaning and grading done tonight, and Sunday is just the team mass for swim and a horse thing with the boy scouts 12:30-2:30. With hopefully some down time later Sunday!

MyNameIsNot · March 28

I might actually get a little down time this weekend! MIL is supposed to leave this afternoon, so I'll do a little cleaning up and reorganizing as soon as she goes. (She's like a puppy, I can't even fold laundry with her around without her trying to get in the middle of it.) Tomorrow should be really nice weather, so run at the park and then probably hang out there a bit to work on some training with the dog. A few errands in the afternoon and then a game tomorrow night. Sunday I need to go on a little hike. My shoes were bothering me last weekend and I need to figure out whether it's just the weight or if I need to add soles or think about replacing my boots. Sadly, I probably need to work a couple of hours on Sunday afternoon.

CharmedPam · March 28

All I have is a restful weekend. Tonight, after work I’m heading over to game night at a friends house, and then tomorrow I have a scalp microblade because the woman who did it last year screwed it up and made dots (dots!) on my scalp where my hair is thinning. I have someone who is going to fix that with hair like brush strokes. And that’s it. Maybe I should go see a movie Sunday.

VarunaTT · March 28

@MyNameIsNot IIRC, you're a runner? I used trail running sneakers for hiking and LOVED doing that. They're so stable because the treads are in both directions, so I never slid or lost footing. I had to relearn how to move, b/c my boots always had a bit of slide to them. Plus they're so light. Sometimes hiking boots feel like they're adding another 5 pounds. I wore tall socks with them to protect ankles/legs from bugs and sprayed myself and the shoes really well to help too. I just found them much more comfortable, I was able to feel the ground more for balance, and my feet weren't as tired at the end of a hike. The only problem I ever had was the muddy trip, when I had to step into what was basically a muddy runoff with my pack on. When I went to step out, the mud sucked it off my foot. I think mine are Saucony b/c they have a wide toe box and I need that.

I'm still tired from yesterday. Gruff boss had 2 rushes and then a big project. It would've been fine, except that the big project had problems that were his and he pushed back on fixing them. So, I opened a conversation with him and my supervisor, to tell him, "I can't do this, here is my supervisor confirming that this is the process to follow, and that I cannot do this process. Please complete this process, so I can complete my task". It was finished, finally. Today I'm just looking at things, thinking "were can I take it easy". My supervisor was irritated for me. It's nice knowing someone has my back when I have to deliver difficult news.

I had my serious head butt and boundary laying with Mom yesterday. Her computer has been on the fritz. I've discussed options with her before, but she didn't want to move on any of them. She then made a repair appointment and wanted me to go with her, but didn't check with me first. I had a conflict. She asked what it was and I told her it was something for me and couldn't be moved. I STG, she was almost crying on the phone. I told her I'd call her back. Got my ducks in a row and texted her. It's worked out now and I'm taking care of things on my own timeline. Since I got it worked out, I'm not going to have a discussion with her, but my time IS my time. Though I'm always willing to help, she can't just make appointments for me to attend, without checking with me.

All of this to say, I'm glad it's Friday and I can chill for the weekend. I have a financial management class on Saturday and I'm going to a DJ show. It's a throwback show with a bunch of DJs that were active in the scene in the late 90s, early 00s. I know at least one of them, so I'm excited. My buddy, E, is going with me. Hopefully my pink romper fits and I don't ever have to pee while I'm in it.

banana468 · March 28

@MyNameIsNot I have a pair of Columbia hiking boots that are light and supportive that have worked for me. I've liked them for any of the more recent hikes we've done and the ankle support is great plus they're not heavy.

levioosa · March 28

@VarunaTT my mom making plans without asking me and then acting surprised or upset when I can’t make it is one of those things that absolutely sends me. Why are they like this.

I’m not sure what this weekend holds. H and I are both in a funk and last weekend we also were in a funk. Maybe this is just our lives now. I’m mostly just feeling really tired and I don’t know how to fix that.

I found a new meal prep service I’m eyeing. Trying to see if the math will math and it’s saving money or breaking even on groceries. Otherwise SSDD.

banana468 · March 28

On the mom thing: I think this is a lot of why BIL puts up walls to MIL for their visits. Up to the point that he got married, what they did was nearly dictated by MIL down to what they'd do. And it was problematic once SIL entered the picture because it was like she wasn't consulted.

But now we've seen the pendulum swing far in the opposite direction. A visit in 2016 had us calling him when he was fishing with FIL saying "Dude you have the car keys for your van and your wife and kids can't join us at the beach' and he purposefully let the calls go to VM. And in the same visit they left for a day trip saying "we may be home in time for dinner" and didn't tell us until around 8 that night (long after dinner was over) about how they weren't going to be back.

So my guess on it is now it's all about trying to leverage some kind of control. They're 'the grown ups' and it's hard to admit that there may be other adults involved.

VarunaTT · March 28

levioosa said:

@VarunaTT my mom making plans without asking me and then acting surprised or upset when I can’t make it is one of those things that absolutely sends me. Why are they like this.

I’m not sure what this weekend holds. H and I are both in a funk and last weekend we also were in a funk. Maybe this is just our lives now. I’m mostly just feeling really tired and I don’t know how to fix that.

I found a new meal prep service I’m eyeing. Trying to see if the math will math and it’s saving money or breaking even on groceries. Otherwise SSDD.

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Well, the quote posted twice and in trying to delete, I'm SITB.

I made the comment to someone that I'm spending more time, in more situations, than I probably ever have as an adult with my mother. Then I said, Hanging out with the unhealed version of me is hard. I really think that's what it is for me. Soooo many patterns that I can now see, that I broke in myself. What happened with the computer is just an example of another pattern....do all the research and make a decision but OMG THIS HAS TO HAPPEN RIGHT NOW I CAN'T CHANGE MY MIND WHY AREN'T THINGS MOVING. Even though I made the plans for today, she's changed them twice in about 2 hours. B/c she just wants to make the decision and move. Fine....I'm at work, here's what I can offer. A lot of times I can shrug it off and not let it get under my skin but yesterday I was very angry, which is why I got off the phone with her.

Anyway, she's for some reason obsessed with having a laptop. I really don't think it'll work for her. So on Sunday, I'm going to take her to Best Buy and let her look at laptops (I don't think the screen will be big enough for her to see). Then we'll look at how much a new computer will cost (starting at $500, I think). Then, she'll let me take it in for repair (b/c I'm pretty sure it just needs a new fan. I think high end repair will be $250. I think it needs a new fan, which is cheap, but it's an all-in-one computer, so it's like opening a laptop to replace hardware). Even though my mother is so good with money, what she wants to do is replace the computer and then moan about the cost and how worried she is about money. I'm not sure she intends for me to feel guilty, but she definitely likes to simmer in her own guilt. I'm uninterested in that path.

charlotte989875 · March 28

Busy week, my managers were in town and it’s been crazy. Have to catch up on what’s been going on!

Not much big planned for the weekend- H is making M finishing for kids weekend so baby J and I are having a weekend hang out together!

CharmedPam · March 28

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VarunaTT said:
Hopefully my pink romper fits and I don't ever have to pee while I'm in it.

This is my superhero talent. I have a bladder like a camel and everyone is surprised “I haven’t gone to the washroom yet”. I’m not sure why I was given this power, or what to do with it - but I’ll own it.

levioosa said:
I’m not sure what this weekend holds. H and I are both in a funk and last weekend we also were in a funk. Maybe this is just our lives now. I’m mostly just feeling really tired and I don’t know how to fix that.

Here in the Midwest seasonal depression is a thing. Is it winter? Is it Spring? Toss us a bone. I know you guys get more rain than anything during this time. Could that be it?

banana468 · March 28

Funny pee story: Chiquito is a kiddo who wore a pullup to bed until 5th grade and now has the occasional night that he wets the bed.

The other day while doing laundry I found his pajamas in his hamper and knew he had an accident. My request when these happen is that he tells me so I can do the laundry and check his sheets. We had a very gentle conversation and I said, "KIddo accidents can happen anytime." His VERY honest response was, "Yeah Mom. You peed your pants in the kitchen a few weeks ago when you sneezed. It happens."

VarunaTT · March 28

Oh @banana468 that is so funny, so heartfelt, and true.

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