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Is it that weird?

CasadenaCasadena member
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Dear Prudence,

My boyfriend and his ex-wife have two teenage daughters, and they all call each other “Mommy” and “Daddy.” As in, the parents still call each other Mommy and Daddy when referring to or speaking to one another, and the daughters do as well. I completely understand children using these terms with their parents, but I have to admit that when the adults call each other Mommy and Daddy, it just … weirds me out. I can’t pinpoint exactly why—it just feels off.

To be clear, I’m not looking to ask them to change how they speak to one another; it’s clearly a longstanding, affectionate part of their family dynamic. But I’m struggling with how to shake this ick-factor reaction I have. How can I stop feeling so uncomfortable about something that objectively isn’t hurting anyone?

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Re: Is it that weird?

  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    Actually, I get it. My ex and his adult siblings called their mother “mommy”. It doesn't sit well with me, but to each their own and I’d never write to an advice columnist about it. 

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  • CasadenaCasadena member
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    H and I call either other mom/dad most of the time if the kids are around. My grandparents called each other mom and dad til they died and my parents still do even though no kids are at home. Just my example I guess, but think the weirdest part of this is that they're exes? I can' imagine calling H daddy if we were divorced. That part feels icky. 
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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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     But I think it’s the y at the end wigging LW out? At some point you should drop the y and mommy turns into mom

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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    My family uses Momma and Dad.  IDK why, my mother insists it's a Southern thing (family is originally from OK, which I think barely qualifies as the South, but okay).  It gave me the ick when I first started using it, but it's what she likes, so I just deal.  Plus she responds to it better than Mom.

    Eventually, the oddness will pass OP and you'll be used to it.
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    Maybe it’s a little weird but at least LW recognizes it’s a them thing. 

    I’d say acknowledge to yourself it’s weird, but it’s their thing and you’re likely not going to change it. Maybe over time it stops bugging you so much? 
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    I refer to my husband as dad when I'm talking to the dog, so I get that. 

    Yeah, mommy/daddy are a bit baby for teenagers, but whatever. 
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